This is a growing issue in Fiji and on this episode I interview Ruci Tukana who breaks down what technological facilitated abuse is and how it is impacting on people.

When it comes to helping our young people navigate sex, dating & relationships our fathers have a very important role. In this episode Ps. Daniel Wood discusses the impact the dad has in their children's lives.

Many young people dream of marrying that "special" one, but so often it can end in heartbreak. Matai & Mei have been married for 41 years and now run a marriage course to help other couples. In this episode they talk about marriage "killers" and what young people can start doing now to prepare for marriage.

There can be a lot of pressure as a single woman to be dating & in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with being single. In this interview Melania talks about her journey and how she is choosing to live in this season of her life. So much great wisdom in this episode.

Vani found herself in a very toxic relationship for a number of years which led her to believe particular lies. In this episode she uncovers these lies and why she believed them.

Vani found herself in a very toxic relationship for a number of years which led her to believe particular lies. In this episode she uncovers these lies and why she believed them.

It’s Q & A with Ritchie on Sex Dating & Relationship. Answering some of your questions. Thanks for all your messages and questions!

Are you living in shame because of past mistakes, current addictions or things that have happened to you?? The great news is, there is hope for you. Listen to this episode in our series on Sex Dating & Relationships.

In this episode, Letitia discusses with Ps. Daniel what is the purpose of sex? God created sex for a specific purpose, with clear boundaries. When sex is used for other purposes, it brings pain, heartache and even disease. It's time to talk about sex!

I'm back with Ritchie & Terry talking about how they treat women in their lives, but also what are some of the red flags in how guys treat young women.

An open discussion with three great men - Ritchie, Naca & Terry - about how they were exposed to porn and how they stopped watching it.

Thanks Ritchie & Naca for sharing your dating experiences as young men.

Why date?

Who hasn't made mistakes during dating? But some mistakes can have a devastating impact on your life. Miri joins Letitia to discuss some of the mistakes she has made in past dating relationships. She speaks out in order to help others not to make the same mistakes.

Katrina is a disruptor for good. In this interview she talks about the change she is bringing to Tonga through leadership, business and helping the vulnerable. We all have the ability to bring change, be inspired by Katrina's life.

This episode is a positive story of an ordinary woman who saw an important need in her settlement and did something about it. Roko is a mother of 7, teaching 30-40 children literacy every Saturday morning in her home. Be inspired by her passion.

Molested as a young girl, Ela Waqanivavalagi is now part of the Breaking the Silence Team that speaks up to break the silence that exists around abuse. In this interview you will hear more about the work of Breaking the Silence and also you will be informed about there conference coming up in June. To register for Be The Voice Conference go to https://youengage.me/p/66314818981abb010002587e For more information email Ela at [email protected]

Louisa is the author of "Island Queen Journal." As a victim of abuse Louisa talks about the powerful role that journaling played in her own healing and wants to encourage women of all ages to write down what they are going through. Louisa will inspire you with hope. Grab your journal from JBROS in Nabua Suva today!

Anne Dunn is Fiji's former online safety commissioner and now works as a digital safety advocate. Anne talks about the importance of cyber safety, why it is a very real issue in Fiji and also why we need to discuss these topics with our children.

Maca was abused for many years by a man in her home. Now she is happily married with one child. How did Maca learn to trust men again? This is a very important conversation.

Mariana Waqa worked for 4 years in the Pacific Islands piloting child protection programs with the Pacific Council of Churches. She is a great advocate for children and making sure they are loved, nurtured and protected.

Lizzie is sharing her story for the first time to help other women see the Red Flags and to also encourage them in their healing journey. It can be a long slow process but it is worth it!

In a world where porn is teaching our sons about women, sex & relationships....it is vital that as parents we get on the front foot and prepare our boys. Letitia interviews Paul from the Men's Empowerment Network, discussing simple yet powerful tools for creating healthy sons who will hopefully one day be healthy husbands.

Last year I interviewed Lola about being married to a man who had cheated on her for 15 years. She is now divorced and in this latest episode she talks about life after the affairs. She is on a healing journey with her three children, but gives some great insights into what is needed after a divorce.

Paul Morrell from Men's Empowerment is back and talking to Letitia about practical ways to prepare your daughter for healthy relationships. Paul gives practical advice to dad's on how they can help their daughters.

Ally-Marie is a survivor of childhood abuse and 6 years in the sex trade. In this episode she shares her story, the reality of what goes on in the sex trade and what she is now doing to help other prostituted women. Ally-Marie is an inspiration to all who meet her. She truly is a disrupting!

Paul Morrell is the founder of the Men's Empowerment Network in Fiji. In this episode He shares some of his struggles as a man & he talks about the big issues men are facing today.

At the age of 21 Losalini was abused by a man in her family. In this interview she discusses her journey of healing and why seeking healing is so important.

Jere Merekula is the manager for Lifeline in Fiji. He discusses with Letitia what needs to happen to get men talking more about their issues in order to see a decrease in suicide across the nation of Fiji.

Sala was in a relationship with an abusive man who also cheated on her for 15 years. Her one regret....she didn't leave earlier. May her story give you courage to leave.

Recently Etta posted on her Facebook the abuse she has received from her ex-partner. Her call was for women to leave and get help. In this interview Etta shares more of her experience of abuse and why she is speaking up.

Two local young people Lanieta and Luka share their thoughts on relationships, sex and porn. They unpack what young people are needing today to navigate life in the 21st century.

Bobby Smith talks to Letitia about his work in the prisons of Vanuatu.

What does a healthy sexual relationship look like? In this episode Letitia interviews psychologist Gretchen Mitchell. Gretchen has spent years helping couples in this area and has helpful insights to offer.

Peter Schultz is an Australian living in Fiji. He works a lot with sexual offenders in prisons. In this episode Peter talks about how he speaks to men about redeeming patriarchy and what that looks like.

In this episode Letitia talks with Seki and Lynnie from Homes of Hope Fiji. They talk about what sex trafficking looks like and the work they are doing to help survivors and vulnerable young women.

Akanisi Tarabe is a trainer on gender equality with House of Sarah and talks about the parts of Fijian culture that need to be changed in order for blessing to come to our communities and to put an end to violence against women and children.

In this episode we discuss how much verbal abuse has become the norm. But do we really understand the impact it is having on our kids. Ps. Maca Tabuya talks about how we can change this.

This week in Fiji the report into Violence against Children was released. In this episode Letitia interviews Dr. Litea Meo-Sewabu from the University of Western Sydney. She was one of the main researchers that put the report together. Dr Litea shares some of the key findings from the report.

In this episode Letitia talks with Hennah Joku, a high profile journalist in Papua New Guinea. Hennah was raped and knocked unconscious by her former partner. After a 5 year journey seeking justice he was finally sentenced to prison in May 2023 for 11 years. Hennah is passionate about speaking up and changing a system that so often works against the victim.

Are you looking for a tool that ensures your safety? Or helps you gather evidence against your abuser? Or helps you to report that person who has been sexually harassing you at work? Samson Selladurai along with his twin brother Giftson has developed a global app to help keep women safe. In this interview Samson talks about the features on the I Am Safe app and how it is an important tool in the hands of women.

Jere speaks about the alarming rate of suicide in Fiji among men and the huge need to create safe spaces where men can share their struggles and get help.

Listen to Ps. Boila share his story at our recent book launch of the Disruptive Voices of Pacific Men. Our past should not determine our future and Ps. Boila is a living example of that.

Ps. Ben talks about the need to help fathers in Fiji. He works with juvenile youth and sees first hand the impact of a fatherless generation. However, it is possible to turn this around.

Ben is one of the contributors to Letitia’s latest book “Disruptive Voices of Pacific Men.” He catches up with Letitia to talk more about his story and why he has chosen to be vulnerable and speak up.

Letitia & Liliana discuss the need to better help our children understand what is healthy sex and relationships. Telling our kids not to have sex has not been helpful and does not set them up properly for future relationships. How can we do better?

Tanya is a family lawyer in Suva and shares some practical steps in how to get out of an abusive relationship.

Vulnerability is not weakness. In this interview Ps. Moses urges men to not hide behind their masks, but rather to come to terms with their brokenness and speak it out and seek help.

Letitia interviews her friend Jackie on issues she faced before she was a Christian. Jackie reveals how she sought healing and hope from her abortion, the abuse she received and also the harmful relationships she was in.

Joe Delanimati is a great young leader in Fiji. He loves Jesus and seeks to live according to His ways. That means it shapes him as a man, his actions and the way he views women.

In this interview with Ps. Samisoni Cakau, he talks about the importance of leaders getting help with their struggles and also being honest about real life issues. Ps Sami shares about his own struggle with porn and how bringing it into the open not only set him free, but many others as well. Healthy leaders create healthy churches that create healthy cities.

Minister for Women, Children & Social Protection Lynda Tabuya talks with Letitia about the important role the church can play in ending violence. Recently the government launched the National Action Plan to Prevent Violence against all Women & Girls. This is a plan in which the whole nation needs to get involved in for there to be real change and especially the church, they are a key.

Vani grew up an abusive home that then caused her to go searching. Her's is another powerful story of courage, abuse, and redemption.

I have been surveying Fijians regarding what they were taught by their parents or church about sex, dating and marriage and whether that has helped them or not. In this episode I share some of the results from this survey as well as interviewing Talei on her experience around this issue as a young women growing up in Fiji.

For many years Libby struggled with a secret porn addiction. It wasn’t until she spoke up about her struggle that she was able to find freedom. Listen to this inspiring interview as Libby shares with so much passion how she has found freedom.

It’s important that we are aware of what is going on in the lives of those around us. In a nation where abuse is so prevalent, how can we tell if someone is being abused and how do we help them. Letitia will answer these questions in this episode.

Abuse is way more than a black eye or a broken arm. It comes in many different forms. Tune into this episode as Letitia talks about the different types of abuse. Could you be in an abusive relationship and not know it?

Even though abortion is mostly illegal in Fiji, they still happen. In this interview Letitia chats with Uni from Life Runners, a pro-life organisation in Fiji seeking to raise awareness about the value of life and also offer help to those in need.

Recently Taru & Letitia ran a day for teen girls in Suva. They chat about some of the issues facing teen girls and how this day helped to address them.

Take a listen on what Pastor Moses OConnor has to say on this very important issue.

Tom shares his painful story of his wife cheating on him. What got him through?

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia interviews Pastor Tiko. He is not only a father to his own sons, but also to many young men in Fiji. Ps. Tiko talks about what he has learned along the journey of raising sons to be honourable men who protect their families and communities.

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia sits down with Rev. William Powell from the Methodist Church and talks about how he addresses abuse from the pulpit and what churches need to do to help both victims and perpetrators.

Recently Pastor Maca did a Ted X Talk in Nadi on Disrupting the Culture of Silence. In this podcast Letitia and Maca talk about what happens to a nation when the women are silenced, what must be done to disrupt the culture of silence and why she chooses to speak up.

Etta is a singer / songwriter and a mother of 7. In this episode of Disruptive voices of the Pacific she speaks out about what life was like for her in an abusive relationship and what gave her the courage to leave.

Dee was abused as a little girl by men she “trusted.” Her childhood was stolen from her, but she has survived. Listen to this powerful episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific which includes a song Dee has written.

Memcy’s ex-husband is facing court with 8 charges of sexual assault against her, yet when she reached out to her pastors for help, they told her to go home and submit to him. This type of advise has got to stop!

Our first interview of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific for 2023 is with Lola. It’s a painful story of affairs and infidelity. Unfortunately these stories are all too common. Lola speaks up to warn others of the red flags and the destruction that unfaithfulness in marriage causes. Lola has found support, help and hope.

A short trailer explaining what Disruptive Voices of the Pacific is all about.

God is a God of justice. In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific you will hear from Peter Shultz who lives in Fiji and works in the prison system to rehabilitate sex offenders. Peter talks about the importance of seeking justice.

It’s time to hear from a former perpetrator! We have heard the stories of a number of survivors of abuse, but in Disruptive Voices of the Pacific it’s time to hear the story of a former perpetrator of abuse. Thank you Turaki for your courage to share about your past. Thank goodness there is hope in Jesus for those who repent and change their ways.

Have You Spoken to your Children about the Harms of Porn? In this episode you will hear an interview that Letitia did with Wise in 2020. At the age of 13 he was exposed to porn. No one in his life had ever warned him about porn and the damage it can do. That silence led him down a very dark path. Let’s not be silent! As adults we must educate ourselves on the harms and how to speak to the children in our life about porn. www.defendyoungminds.com is a brilliant resource to help you in this important discussion.

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Ps. Manasa speaks passionately about the harms of porn on men and why men need to take responsibility.

“Are We Listening to the Pain?” Our communities are full of pain. Are we willing to listen to the pain in order for healing to come? The book of Lamentations is 5 chapters on the destruction of a city. God gives voice to the grief and suffering of a city and He calls us to do the same. This episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific is another powerful story of abuse from Amelia. Let’s hear the cry and ask God what can we do to see an end to abuse?

Why Do Women Watch Porn? You are probably shocked to hear that women do watch porn. In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific Letitia speaks into some of the reasons why and also plays an interview that she did via zoom with a young Fijian woman in 2021.

Shame dies when stories are told. In Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Mele shares why, years after the event, she is telling her story of abuse.

Should I date a guy who watches porn? In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, author of 'He Choose Porn over Me', Melinda Tanka Reist talks about the dangers of being in a relationship with a man who watch porn.

For over 10 years Pastor Maca Tabuya endured severe abuse from a man in her home. Today she still suffers from injuries from that abuse. In Disruptive Voices of the Pacific Maca shares her story in order to challenge the church to disrupt its silence, and to create spaces where people can be healed.

How Not to Marry an Abuser. In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Father of 4 and pastor, Moses OConner shares how he has taught his two girls how to watch guys closely before getting into a relationship. He also talks about some of the red flags to look for and then challenges guys to become men through finding godly male mentors.

Nox leads Aruka, an organisation that he started in order to help needy widows and abandoned teens. In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific be inspired by what can be done by a man with a vision.

In the past year suicides in Fiji have doubled. In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia chats with Jere, the manager of Lifeline Fiji, on the vital services they offer and how the church can help create an emotionally healthy Fiji.

Letitia interviews Sara, a young woman who started sex work on the streets of Suva at just 14. What led her into this industry? Everyone has a story. Hear Sara's on Disruptive Voices of the Pacific.

Is it Ok to be single. In Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia interviews her single friend Kesa on what it’s like being in your late 40’s and single.

Why do women in the Pacific stay silent? In Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Liliana discusses with Letitia the obstacles that keep women silent in Fiji, what has shaped her to speak out and why a woman’s voice is so important.

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia and Ben Morrison discuss the importance of church unity, fathers and reaching our communities. Ben is a local pastors with a passion for all three and doing a great job!

Adopted, abused and living on the streets. This describes the first 13 years of Edwina’s life. A former sex worker, she is now running a Safe House and farm to support those with no home. Tune in for another episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific.

Can women lead and speak in the church? Daniel is a local pastor in Fiji who has women preaching and leading regularly. In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific we discuss his biblical basis for this, what is added to the church when women lead and how having women in leadership is an important part of seeing an end to abuse.

This episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific features a powerful story from mother of 9 and business woman Elisabeta on how she survived an abusive marriage and what made her finally leave.

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, trained counsellor Koila talks about the importance of getting counselling after abuse. In a nation where there is still a lot of stigma around getting help, Koila talks about the damaging effects on our lives if we don’t get help.

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific Letitia & Master Mika discuss Kingdom Culture verses Fijian Culture.

What type of leadership is required to end abuse? This episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific is an interview with local Fijian Pastor Stuart Yagomate. He talks about what he is doing in his church to create equality, to train young men and what it means to be a pastor.

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia interviews Sesenieli, a former sex worker who now runs a safe house for sex workers in Fiji. Sesenieli shares her story of growing up, how she entered the sex trade and what it’s like being a sex worker on the streets of Fiji.

At the age of 3 Wakanesi was abused by an older man in her village. In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Wakanesi talks to Letitia about how that impacted her as a girl, how she has found healing and how she now encourages the women of Fiji to break the silence.

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia interviews Mere who suddenly faced the devastation of her husband leaving her for another women. Mere talks openly of how she has made it through one of the toughest times of her life. (Mere's voice has been disguised to preserve anonymity)

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia interviews Rev. Wilfred Regu from the Methodist Church. Last week it was reported that Pastors in the church are watching porn & having affairs. Tune in as the Reverend speaks into these issues and more.

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia interviews former police officer Linieta Navonu. She served in the police for for 35 years and 20 of those years were in the child abuse and sexual assault services. Linieta shares heartbreaking stories, we discuss sex trafficking in Fiji and also Breaking the Silence.

In this episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, Letitia chats with Iliesa Fonolahi from Free Fiji from Porn. They discuss the terrible harm that porn does to individuals and communities. Iliesa also shares his personal story of being affected by porn and why he now speaks against it.

In this introductory episode of Disruptive Voices of the Pacific, our host, Letitia Shelton, outlines why she's doing this podcast.