ONE Extraordinary Marriage Daily Steps

English, Parenting, 1 season, 116 episodes, 13 hours, 6 minutes

ONE Extraordinary Marriage Daily Steps

English, Parenting, 1 season, 116 episodes, 13 hours, 6 minutes

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Welcome to Daily Steps from ONE Extraordinary Marriage! Each day Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo outline the simple steps that you can take to have the ultimate marriage adventure. Submit your questions by emailing [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message. You can follow the hosts on Instagram @oneextraordinarymarriage. www.oneextraordinarymarriage.com

DS 115: What’s Next?

Today is the last day of Daily Steps. We’ve enjoyed partnering with you and having you part of the ONE family. Over the last 9 years we have shared about sex, love and commitment on the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show. Come join us each week for all things marriage and more. Love you guys.

4/25/2019 • 4 minutes, 6 seconds

DS 114: Is It Wrong for a Husband or Wife to Tell Their Spouse That They Should Lose Weight?

You're not each other’s parents instead you are each other’s partners. Treat each other with the level of respect and care bestowed upon a married couple. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

4/18/2019 • 6 minutes, 12 seconds

DS 113: How Do We Keep Our Marriage Strong When We Are Living Paycheck to Paycheck

Finances plays a role in every marriage and knowing how to keep it strong through all seasons is vital to long term fulfillment. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

4/11/2019 • 6 minutes, 33 seconds

DS 112: How Do You Keep the Intimacy Lifestyle Routine When You Are Outside of Your Home?

There will be times when you are traveling together that you'll need to have a plan for staying consistent with your intimacy lifestyle Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

4/4/2019 • 5 minutes, 43 seconds

DS 111: How Do You Reconcile Different Needs for Affection?

Touch is an important part of any marriage union and yet when it's overt or non-existent it can cause tension between you and your spouse. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

3/28/2019 • 6 minutes, 8 seconds

DS 110: Does It Matter If We Don't Go to Bed at the Same Time?

There are many studies that conclude that going to bed together has a positive benefit on both you and your spouse. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

3/21/2019 • 5 minutes, 23 seconds

DS 109: How Do You Create Intimacy with a Large Family?

As your family grows there are more moving parts which can cause a disconnect when it comes to your sexual intimacy. Even with a large family you can find time to connect. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

3/14/2019 • 5 minutes, 51 seconds

DS 108: How Can I Help My Spouse Disconnect From Work and Connect With Me?

When work gets in the way of your marriage it may be time to set the vision for your marriage. Doing so can help you and your spouse have a focus other than work. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

3/7/2019 • 6 minutes, 36 seconds

DS 107: How Can We Do a Sex Challenge If Our Levels of Desire Are So Different?

The time you spend with each other during a challenge serves as a way to break out of the different mindsets each of you have around sex as well as the roll you play as the high desire or low desire spouse. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

2/28/2019 • 5 minutes, 2 seconds

DS 106: How Do You Keep Sex From Becoming Routine During a Sex Challenge?

Prior to starting you want to think about how you can be creative throughout your challenge. This is an opportunity for the two of you to spice up your sex life. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

2/21/2019 • 6 minutes, 58 seconds

DS 105: Why Do a Sex Challenge Around a Holiday?

Holidays, celebrations, birthdays are typically a one day event. When you start or finish a challenge on one of these you'll remember it for years to come. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

2/14/2019 • 5 minutes, 27 seconds

DS 104: What’s The Idea Behind a Sex Challenge?

Starting a sex challenge isn't just about sex. It's about fostering your emotional intimacy, eliminating rejection and trying something new with your spouse. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

2/7/2019 • 5 minutes, 49 seconds

DS 103: How Can Scheduling Sex Benefit Our Marriage?

Honestly… scheduling sex IS spontaneous, intimate and much more! When you schedule sex your giving yourself and your spouse a way to be sexually intimate on a regular basis that is best for the two of you. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

1/31/2019 • 7 minutes, 1 second

DS 102: How Do I Handle My Wife’s Feelings Around Her Lack of Arousal?

Arousal and what that looks like or means to you both can change over time. Having conversation around this topic is key for husband and wife to to enjoy their sexual intimacy. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

1/24/2019 • 6 minutes, 40 seconds

DS 101: How Do We Maintain Our Sex Life in a Small House With Teenagers and a Baby?

Anyone who has kids knows that when kids enter the picture your sex life enters a new phase. The key is to change your mindset from “we can’t do this” to “let’s get creative”. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

1/17/2019 • 6 minutes

DS 100: Am I Out Of My Mind For Changing My Mind About Having Kids?

Kids are a big conversation for couples and it’s not a one time conversation. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

1/10/2019 • 6 minutes, 19 seconds

DS 099: How Can We Keep Intimacy Alive When a Spouse Is Deployed Overseas?

No matter the circumstances you may be facing you can continue to make your marriage extraordinary when your spouse is deployed. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

1/3/2019 • 7 minutes, 30 seconds

DS 098: Is It OK for a Married Couple to Use Sex Toys?

Toys can enhance sexual pleasure, create a spark and bring excitement to you sex life. Learn how to discuss your comfort level with toys in your bedroom. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

12/27/2018 • 9 minutes, 27 seconds

DS 097: How Can We Do The Coffee Break If We Are Long Distance?

The Coffee Break is like a business meeting for your marriage where you talk about everything from love to logistics. You can even do it when you are long distance. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

12/20/2018 • 7 minutes, 13 seconds

DS 096: How Do We Handle Cleaning Up After Sex?

No matter where you make love there is the clean up that comes afterwards. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

12/13/2018 • 6 minutes, 46 seconds

DS 095: What If I Don't Know What I Like?

If you don’t know what you like it’s time to start your own personal sex ed class in your bedroom with your spouse. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

12/6/2018 • 6 minutes, 47 seconds

DS 094: How Do I Talk to My Kids About Sex?

As a parent make a commitment to answer your children truthfully about sex, even if it means that you have to do a little research to answer their questions. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

11/29/2018 • 7 minutes, 40 seconds

DS 093: How Can We Be Sexually Intimate When We Don’t Even Sleep Together Because of a Back Injury?

Physical limitations due to injuries can and will happen. Knowing some strategies to approach this will be beneficial to being sexually intimate. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

11/15/2018 • 6 minutes, 39 seconds

DS 092: What is the Best Way to Lovingly Explain What I Would Like My Wife to Wear When it Comes to Our Sexual Intimacy?

Discussing your sex life is not a one and done conversation. Healthy marriages talk about their sexual intimacy and all its many aspects on a regular basis. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

11/8/2018 • 7 minutes, 41 seconds

DS 091: How Can We Make Our Words and Actions Our New Normal If We Didn’t Grow Up That Way?

When the path isn't clear it's time to cast a vision that both you and your spouse what to reach for together. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

11/1/2018 • 8 minutes, 35 seconds

DS 090: How Do I Get My Husband to Wear His Wedding Ring?

The wedding ring is a circle which has no beginning or end and is therefore a symbol of infinity. It is endless, eternal, just the way love should be. And yet what happens when your spouse decides not to wear theirs. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

10/25/2018 • 6 minutes, 37 seconds

DS 089: How Can I Help My Wife Shut Off Her Brain in the Bedroom?

There is a lot that is going on that there are times when the brain has a hard time focusing in on the one next to you. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

10/18/2018 • 7 minutes, 46 seconds

DS 088: Do You Combine Sensation Oil in Your Oral Sex Fun?

What you use when having oral sex can help it make it more enjoyable or it can turn you off. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

10/11/2018 • 5 minutes, 12 seconds

DS 087: Is It Wrong of Me to Want My Wife to Dress Skanky?

The words you choose to use can have an impact on how your spouse responds to you. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

10/4/2018 • 5 minutes, 56 seconds

DS 086: How Do You Sleep in the Same Bed as Your Spouse When the Two of You Have Opposite Body Temps?

Not enough covers or to many covers can sometimes be a question you're asking each other. Especially when the two of you have different body temperature. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

9/27/2018 • 5 minutes, 56 seconds

DS 085: How Can I Share the Importance of Maintaining One's Appearance After Marriage?

Discussing the appearence of your spouse can be a touchy topic. We share how you can bring this up to your spouse without having hurt feelings or causing resentment. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

9/20/2018 • 5 minutes, 26 seconds

DS 084: How Do I Encourage My Husband to do Creative Things to Show His Love?

There may be times when your spouse doesn't know exactly what you want. Learn how to encourage him to show his love in creative ways. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

9/13/2018 • 5 minutes, 57 seconds

DS 083: Can Poor Body Image Affect a Woman’s Ability to Have An Orgasm?

Body image isn’t just about what you see, it’s about how you feel about what you see. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

9/6/2018 • 6 minutes, 4 seconds

DS 082: How Do We Juggle Different Work Schedules?

There are a lot of couples in the ONE family with different schedules. If this is your marriage we share what others have done to connect sexually with different work schedules. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/30/2018 • 6 minutes, 16 seconds

DS 081: How Do You Pull Off the Logistics of Morning Sex?

When it comes to morning sex make sure that you discuss what this looks like for you and for your spouse. What you know helps you both to make it happen. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/23/2018 • 6 minutes, 57 seconds

DS 080: How Do We Deal With Addiction In The Marriage?

The process of becoming clean and sober and having a healthy marriage is just that, a process, but like all processes it needs a beginning. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/20/2018 • 7 minutes, 54 seconds

DS 079: What Do You Do When You Get to the Point When You Have Nothing to Talk About Anymore?

There can be a lot of reasons why the two of you aren’t talking and different seasons of life may lead to this time right now. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/17/2018 • 7 minutes, 42 seconds

DS 078: Is There Such a Thing as Falling Out of Love?

The idea of falling out of love refers to love as a noun but love is a verb. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/16/2018 • 6 minutes, 34 seconds

DS 077: How Can New Parents Make Sure They Are Still Putting in Time For Their Relationship?

The number one thing to keep in mind even from the earliest days is that your marriage is your child’s first model for what marriage looks like. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/15/2018 • 8 minutes, 22 seconds

DS 76: How Do You Stop Your Spouse From Lying?

Some people lie out of habit, what started out as "a little white lie" or difficult has now become routine. If this is the case in your marriage it may be time to seek outside help. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/14/2018 • 7 minutes, 23 seconds

DS 075: Is It Acceptable For Us to Have Naughty Sex?

Naughty is one of those words that means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Sex was designed as a way for a husband and a wife to connect in way that they cannot do with anyone else. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/13/2018 • 8 minutes, 23 seconds

DS 074: How Do You Find Love, Specifically a Godly Man, After a Divorce?

It might seem unusual for us to answer a question about how to find a man. We have a lot of folks in the ONE family who are divorced, who are single and wanting to know what to do to have an extraordinary marriage the next time. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/10/2018 • 6 minutes, 26 seconds

DS 073: How Do You Keep Your Sex Life Alive When You Are Trying to Conceive?

In dealing with infertility, sex can become a task. It can become all about timing and cycles and body temperature and ovulation. All about the data points and not about the connection. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/9/2018 • 6 minutes, 58 seconds

DS 072: How Does One Say That They Want More Sex Without Saying It?

You have made it clear that you would like to have more sex and yet your spouse isn't responding. It’s time to dig deeper into what the two of you envision for your sexual intimacy. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/8/2018 • 6 minutes, 38 seconds

DS 071: How Do You Know When You Are Ready to Have Kids?

Getting ready to have a baby is first and foremost about making your marriage relationship strong. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/7/2018 • 7 minutes, 1 second

DS 070: How Can We Possibly Get Along When it Seems Like We Have Grown So Far Apart?

When you are in a place where you feel you are far apart you may have to start at the beginning and truly get to know your spouse once again. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/6/2018 • 7 minutes, 44 seconds

DS 069: What Do I Do About the Resentment That I Feel Having to Constantly Clean Up After My Husband?

Cleaning up after another person without any response/help or acknowledgement can easily lead to resentment. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/3/2018 • 7 minutes, 50 seconds

DS 068: What Do We Need to Consider When Planning a Vacation for Just the Two of Us?

The most important part of any vacation is to discuss your expectations before you leave so you have an amazing time together. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/2/2018 • 8 minutes, 30 seconds

DS 067: How Do We Share with Family That My Husband is Going to be a Stay at Home Dad?

Learning to create your own family unit, with your own traditions, values and ideals is one of the most challenging things that a couple can do and yet one of the most necessary. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

8/1/2018 • 6 minutes, 39 seconds

DS 066: How Do You Build a Stronger Spiritual Life as a Couple?

Building a spiritual life is a process. It is as important as building your emotional connection, your physical connection and your financial connection. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/31/2018 • 7 minutes, 33 seconds

DS 065: What Can I Do If My Husband Yells at Me In Front of Our Child?

There is a difference between having an argument and yelling to belittle or demean someone. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/30/2018 • 6 minutes, 16 seconds

DS 064: How Can the Intimacy Lifestyle Make Sex Easier For the Low Desire Spouse?

One of the challenges that many couples face is that one spouse wants sex more than the other. When you are the low desire spouse it can feel like every touch from your higher desire spouse is motivated by the fact that they want sex. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/27/2018 • 8 minutes, 13 seconds

DS 063: Why is it Taking So Long to Fix Our Marriage?

During this time you have to learn how to be married to one another all over again and you have to do it while healing from the hurts. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/26/2018 • 6 minutes, 40 seconds

DS 062: What Can I Do to Spice Up My Marriage?

There are many different ways to spice up your marriage so let's look at some that you can start using in your marriage today. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/25/2018 • 7 minutes, 35 seconds

DS 061: Should I Talk to My Husband if the Only Way That I Can Orgasm is with Clitoral Stimulation?

You and your spouse should be talking about sex. It’s important for couples no matter how long they have been married to talk about their sex lives. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/24/2018 • 7 minutes, 36 seconds

DS 060: How Can I Get My Spouse More Comfortable with Public Displays of Affection?

It’s important to understand where your spouse is coming from and also to understand what they are comfortable with. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/23/2018 • 7 minutes, 30 seconds

DS 059: Why Is It So Hard for My Husband to Meet My Needs?

Expectations around needs are one of the biggest struggles that a couple faces. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/20/2018 • 8 minutes, 49 seconds

DS 058: How Can We Make Sex a Priority During the Summer?

Intimacy does not go on vacation. It doesn’t take a break. It’s something that you are intentional about no matter the season. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/19/2018 • 6 minutes, 55 seconds

DS 057: How Can We Fight Better?

Arguments, disagreements and fights are going to happen at times and yet if you want to fight better, consider the tone and timing of your conversations. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/18/2018 • 7 minutes, 39 seconds

DS 056: What Can We Do About My Husband's Snoring?

Snoring affects 30-40% of people. Because snoring interrupts everyone’s sleep it can have a tremendous impact on a marriage on so many levels. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/17/2018 • 6 minutes, 32 seconds

DS 055: What Can I Do If I Have a Problem with Delayed Ejaculation?

There are three areas that could be causing delayed ejaculation. Take one step toward identifying the cause and work towards a solution starting today. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/16/2018 • 7 minutes, 54 seconds

DS 054: What Can I Do When It Seems Like Everything I Do Is Wrong?

You don't have to live like this. Make an intentional decision to break the cycle because neither one of you are happy with this situation. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/13/2018 • 7 minutes, 14 seconds

DS 053: Why Would I Want to Sleep Naked?

Sleeping naked does make having sex easier because there’s nothing to remove and yet you’ll find that most of the time it’s not about the sex, it’s about the connection. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/12/2018 • 8 minutes

DS 052: How Important is Personal Hygiene to My Sex Life?

There are enough barriers to husbands and wives having sex, hygiene doesn’t need to be another one. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/11/2018 • 7 minutes, 35 seconds

DS 051: How Do We Deal With the Exhaustion From All That We Have to Do?

We are in a world where the fear of missing out or fear of disappointing someone drives us to say yes to way more than we are able to handle. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/10/2018 • 7 minutes, 56 seconds

DS 050: What Do I Do When it Seems Like All Our Friends Have Perfect Marriages and We Are Struggling?

Caught in the comparrison trap with not move you forward in your marriage so it's time to look at where you are and where you are going. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/9/2018 • 7 minutes, 38 seconds

DS 049: How Do I Get Out of My Sexual Rut After Having 4 Kids in 7 Years?

There is a lot happening when you have kids and yet you can be the sexy wife again. It's just different than it was before. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/6/2018 • 9 minutes, 30 seconds

DS 048: What Tips or Encouragement Do You Have for Two Virgins About to Get Married?

Sex is one of those areas of our lives that the more we practice, the better we know our spouses, the better it becomes. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/5/2018 • 8 minutes, 22 seconds

DS 047: How Can I Share the ONE Podcast With My Spouse?

There are a number of ways you can share the show so that your spouse is most receptive to listening. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/4/2018 • 7 minutes, 50 seconds

DS 046: What Do You Talk About on a Walk and Talk if There Aren’t Any Problems?

Getting out and moving can be one of the best things you do for your emotional intimacy. Learn how to make it part of your everyday life. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/3/2018 • 7 minutes, 38 seconds

DS 045: How Can We Be Intimate When My Spouse Has a Disability and Traditional Intercourse Isn’t an Option?

Most people think vaginal intercourse when the word sex is mentioned however couples are rewriting that definition to fit their circumstances. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

7/2/2018 • 7 minutes, 54 seconds

DS 044: How Do I Trust Again?

Rebuilding trust in a relationship takes time, behavioual and mindset changes, and overcoming fear. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/29/2018 • 7 minutes, 54 seconds

DS 043: Is It Healthy to be Sexual Active Everyday?

Sexual frequency varies from couple to couple and desire is different between both partners. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/28/2018 • 6 minutes, 9 seconds

DS 042: How Do We Navigate Our Marriage While Dealing With My Spouse's Depression?

During this time it is important that there is care for the person dealing with the depression and care for the spouse as well. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/27/2018 • 6 minutes, 21 seconds

DS 041: What Do We Do If We Have Nothing to Talk About?

A conversation can feel overwhelming if you don’t know how long you are going to talk or what you are going to talk about. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/26/2018 • 7 minutes, 33 seconds

DS 040: What Is and Isn’t OK In The Bedroom According to The Bible?

Learn what it means to glorify God AND honor the commitment that you have made to one another inside your bedroom. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/25/2018 • 6 minutes, 55 seconds

DS 039: What Do I Do If I Don't Know How to Have an Orgasm and I'm Not Comfortable Masturbating

Give yourself permission to try. Having an orgasm is to be fully present with your spouse as you fully surrendered to what is going on in the moment. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/22/2018 • 8 minutes, 34 seconds

DS 038: Is Our Marriage on Hold Until the Kids Are Out of the House?

Just because you have kids doesn’t mean your marriage is on hold nor should it be on hold. In fact it’s critical that your marriage still be a priority after having kids. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/21/2018 • 7 minutes, 20 seconds

DS 037: Is It OK For a Couple to Use Sex Toys in the Bedroom?

6/20/2018 • 9 minutes, 27 seconds

DS 036: What Do I Do If My Husband Acts Just Like His Father and He Says I'm Just Like My Mother?

When this phrase it uttered it’s usually because there is behavior that IS NOT working in your marriage. Learn how you can address this behavior with your spouse. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/19/2018 • 7 minutes, 46 seconds

DS 035: How Do I Overcome Being Offended By My Spouse?

Learn to identify if resentment, bitterness, unforgiveness or even hatred are taking root in your marriage (these are marriage killers). Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/18/2018 • 7 minutes, 37 seconds

DS 034: What Do I Do When I Don't Feel Confident In the Bedroom?

Three areas, mindset, rejection and body image, can be factors in how you show up or don’t show up with confidence in your bedroom. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/15/2018 • 8 minutes, 49 seconds

DS 033: We’re Always So Tired at the End of the Day and Sex Is Just Ho-Hum, What Can We Do?

There’s nothing that says that the only time the two of you can have sex is in the dark at night at the end of the day. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/14/2018 • 6 minutes, 16 seconds

DS 032: What Do I Do About the Jealousy That Stirs In Me?

There’s a reason that jealousy is called the green eyed monster. It’s a big ugly in your marriage. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/13/2018 • 4 minutes, 24 seconds

DS 031: What Do We Do If Her Vagina Is Super Tight and I Can’t Even Get In?

A tight vagina can be due to a number of reasons and yet it's not discussed. It's important to have these conversations together and with her doctor. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/12/2018 • 5 minutes, 41 seconds

DS 030: How Do We Handle the Stress of Trying to Get Pregnant When It's Not Happening?

Learn what can be done to connect with your spouse once again when infertility is getting the best of you. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/11/2018 • 5 minutes, 2 seconds

DS 029: Can We Recover Our Sexual Intimacy After My Porn Addiction Was Discovered?

The discovery of porn in a marriage is the discovery of trust being broken. Your spouse feels violated and they are questioning if the one for you. Learn what you can do to begin to restore your marriage. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/8/2018 • 6 minutes, 25 seconds

DS 028: What Can I Do To Convince My Spouse That We Need Help For The Problems In Our Marriage?

Even though you see the need for getting help, your spouse is stuck and right now that’s OK. Learn what you can do to start making a change in you. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/7/2018 • 5 minutes, 14 seconds

DS 027: How Do We Maintain Our Sexual Intimacy When Medication Is Robbing One Of Us Of Desire?

The strain that health issues put on your marriage is real. Learn what you can do to be intimate during times of health problems. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/6/2018 • 6 minutes, 23 seconds

DS 026: Is It An Affair If We Are Only Chatting Online?

An emotional affair is just as destructive on your marriage as a physical or sexual affair. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/5/2018 • 5 minutes, 10 seconds

DS 025: Can Marriage Coaching Work If Only One of Us Wants to Do It?

Coaching will give you the confidence to understand who you are and as a result be able to move toward the life and marriage you desire. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/4/2018 • 8 minutes, 16 seconds

DS 024: How Do You Keep The Intimacy Going When You Have Little Ones Running Around?

Learn what you can do to become more comfortable having sex when the kids are home. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

6/1/2018 • 5 minutes, 32 seconds

DS 023: What Do I Do When Stress is Killing My Libido?

Great, growing, happy and incredibly healthy marriages still have to combat stress. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/31/2018 • 7 minutes, 8 seconds

DS 022: How Can We Stay Sexually Intimate During Pregnancy?

Whether it’s your first or your fifth, having a baby changes the dynamic between husband and wife. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/30/2018 • 5 minutes, 51 seconds

DS 021: How Long Does it Take to Heal From Finding Out That Your Spouse Watches Porn?

You found out that your husband has been looking at porn. The shock has left you heartbroken as the foundation of your marriage has been compromised. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/29/2018 • 5 minutes, 9 seconds

DS 020: Does My Underwear Really Matter?

Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you feel sexy. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/28/2018 • 5 minutes, 39 seconds

DS 019: How Do You Use Essential Oils to Create Intimacy?

Oils are impacting bedrooms around the world in huge ways. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/25/2018 • 6 minutes, 31 seconds

DS 018: Is it Really So Bad to Have Our Phones in Our Bedroom?

Too much blue screen can create the blues in your relationship. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/24/2018 • 5 minutes, 9 seconds

DS 017: How Can I Change My Marriage if it Feels Like I Have No Time?

Make a choice, daily, sometimes minute by minute that you are going to find time for your spouse today. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/23/2018 • 4 minutes, 14 seconds

DS 016: How Do You Navigate the Changes That Come with Menopause?

Menopause doesn’t have to be this scary unknown because with the right resources both you and your spouse will make it through this season together. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/22/2018 • 5 minutes, 32 seconds

DS 015: How Do You Prioritize Your Marriage When You Are Physically, Emotionally and Spiritually Drained?

Life can get to the point where you're not connecting with your spouse any longer. It's time to learn what you can do to put them at the top of your list once again. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/21/2018 • 5 minutes, 50 seconds

DS 014: How Do I Handle it if My Spouse Doesn't Initiate on Their Days?

There will be times when you may not be persued eventhough you've agreed to the Intimacy Lifestyle. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/18/2018 • 6 minutes, 56 seconds

DS 013: What Do I Do If I Don’t Know How to Initiate?

You may never have been taught how to initate sex, but it is something you can learn to do. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/17/2018 • 7 minutes, 3 seconds

DS 012: How Do the Two of You Set Up the Intimacy Lifestyle to Work for You?

It's one thing to know what the Intimacy Lifestyle is. The next step is setting it up so that you can experience the benefits of it in your marriage. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/16/2018 • 7 minutes, 1 second

DS 011: What is the Intimacy Lifestyle?

Scheduling sex isn't something you may be thinking about and yet you need to get it on the calendar. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/15/2018 • 5 minutes, 23 seconds

DS 010: What Can Be Done to Shrink the Orgasm Gap Between You and Your Sposue

Orgasm. The big “O”. Climax. It doesn’t matter what you call it, it’s a loaded topic and one that we are going to dig into. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/14/2018 • 3 minutes, 44 seconds

DS 009: How Can You Find More Time to Connect Despite Your Super Busy Schedule?

Learn what you can do together to find those chunks of time in your weekly schedule so you connect regularly. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/11/2018 • 5 minutes, 55 seconds

DS 008: How Do You Talk About Her Period and Menstrual Cycle?

As a woman’s hormones change during the menstrual cycle so does her husband’s responsiveness to her. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/10/2018 • 5 minutes, 8 seconds

DS 007: What Can You Do When You Hear I Don't Understand What You Mean?

If you hear these words and react only from your perspective and don’t ask your spouse for clarity then both of you are going to be frustrated. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/9/2018 • 7 minutes, 52 seconds

DS 006: How Do You Stay Connect During a Big Move?

It’s during these stressful times where there may be little to no sexual intimacy, short conversations, as well as some frustrations. Let's get you through this. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/8/2018 • 8 minutes, 1 second

DS 005: What Are the Best Ways to Clean Up After Sex?

As long as you have been making love, cleaning up after sex has always been a part of the your sexual intimacy. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/7/2018 • 7 minutes, 51 seconds

DS 004: How Do You Express Desire?

Expressing desire is different for everyone and it doesn't always look like the movies. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/4/2018 • 4 minutes, 18 seconds

DS 003: How Can You Create An Environment That Leads to Sex

Learn what you can do to create an environment that fosters vulnerability and connection. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/3/2018 • 5 minutes, 28 seconds

DS 002: What Are the 5 Rules to Create an Extraordinary Marriage?

Learn the 5 things you can do now to make your marriage better tomorrow, next week and for years to come. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/2/2018 • 10 minutes, 38 seconds

DS 001: How Do You Bring More Vocalization Into Your Bedroom?

Share your satisfaction through vocalization when you are between the sheets with your spouse. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/1/2018 • 6 minutes, 3 seconds

DS 000: Welcome to ONE Extraordinary Marriage's Daily Steps

Here's a quick overview on who Tony & Alisa are, what you can expect and how you can have your questions answered on Daily Steps. Submit your question to [email protected] or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

5/1/2018 • 2 minutes, 25 seconds