Teal Swan shares eleven powerful tips to help you cultivate courage, dispel common misconceptions, and embrace discomfort as a path to growth and success. Discover how to make courage a conscious choice in your life, no matter the challenges you face.

There is a lot of confusion going around about when doing something qualifies as being disciplined and when doing something qualifies as bulldozing yourself. This confusion is a problem when one is an important element of success and the other is a road to failure. For this reason, I’m going to explain the difference between discipline and bulldozing. 

Validation is crucial in relationships, especially for those who've experienced invalidation. It involves recognizing and accepting someone's feelings as real and important. However, validation can be misused when it’s given without taking action to resolve the underlying issue, leaving the person stuck in pain. Watch this video as Teal unpacks this far too common form of abuse.

Many of us believe that reaching our desires—whether it's finding a soulmate, achieving financial success, or attaining enlightenment—will bring us lasting happiness. However, Teal challenges this belief by showing that achieving what you desire won't lead to enduring happiness.

Success is often seen as the ultimate goal, but what many don't realize is the significant pain and sacrifice that comes with it. In this eye-opening episode, Teal Swan explores the concept of contrast avoidance and how our subconscious desire for comfort can limit our ability to achieve what we truly want.

Simply doing inner work isn’t enough to meet your or your partner's needs. Misunderstanding this can lead to greater disconnect. Teal offers insights and practical advice on bridging the gap between self-improvement and relationship satisfaction through this reality check using powerful case study that might be a little too familiar for most.

Explore the profound impact of unresolved trauma with Teal Swan in this compelling episode. Discover how distress manifests emotionally, mentally, and physically, shaping our lives in ways we often don't realize. Teal explains how trauma can affect anyone, regardless of background, and offers insight into her transformative Completion Process. Join us to understand how healing trauma can lead to a healthier, more fulfilling life.

In this eye-opening video, Teal Swan exposes the harsh realities and double standards successful women face in their romantic lives. Through powerful examples and insights, she illustrates how gender biases create nearly impossible relationship expectations for high-achieving females. Teal explores the unfair perceptions and limited roles society imposes on both men and women, and how these dynamics set successful women up for disappointment in love.

In this eye-opening episode, Teal Swan exposes the shocking truth that traditional relationship models simply don't work in today's rapidly evolving world. She explains the social shifts that have made old templates for love, marriage and family obsolete. Teal then reveals the key to relationship success going forward: customizing partnerships based on our authentic needs and desires, rather than trying to force ourselves into outdated molds. If your relationships feel stuck in a painful cycle of unmet expectations, this episode will give you the insight and inspiration to rethink the structures and bravely create more authentic connections.

In this life-changing video, Teal Swan shares her top 12 lifestyle habits for optimal wellness. From the transformative power of shadow work to the importance of sleep, emotional attunement, and living your values, Teal covers every key area of mind-body health. You'll learn tips for nourishing your body, managing stress, cultivating healthy relationships, and creating an environment that supports your well-being.

In this eye-opening video, Teal Swan exposes the dark side of positivity in parenting. While positivity is often seen as desirable, "positivity parents" can inflict severe damage by using it to avoid painful realities. By creating a fantasy "overlay reality," they emotionally abandon and gaslight their children. The child is left alone in pain, unable to get their emotional needs met.

In this powerful video, Teal Swan delves into the hidden pain of emotional neglect - a relationship dynamic she argues is even more damaging than overt physical abuse. Through vivid examples, Teal illustrates the lose-lose trap victims face and the psychological toll it takes. She distinguishes between willful and unintentional neglect, and outlines steps to break free, heal, and get your needs met.

Teal Swan exposes the shadow side of the self-empowerment movement, revealing how relational trauma can lead to glorifying independence and disconnection. She explores the allure of beliefs promising freedom from powerlessness, while highlighting the illusion of self-sufficiency. Discover why embracing interdependence is crucial for authentic empowerment and well-being. If you've felt disillusioned with self-help teachings, this episode offers a fresh perspective on navigating personal growth through mastering relationships and integrating our humanness.

Every week, I get messages from men asking me what to do about the controlling and uptight woman in their lives. So, let’s look at what causes a woman to be uptight and controlling. And let’s look at what the actual solution is. 

Discover the most important practice for developing authentic, lasting self-love. In this transformative video, Teal Swan reveals the key to overcoming shame and self-hate by embracing and integrating the very parts of ourselves we've rejected.

In this insightful video, Teal Swan shares her top tips for parents transitioning to life as empty nesters after their children leave home. She validates the complex emotions that often arise and provides practical guidance on coping with this major life change.

Do you feel trapped in frustrating, circular conversations that repeat endlessly without resolution? In this insightful video, Teal Swan reveals the three root causes behind these draining cycles of conflict and provides practical strategies to break free for good.

Reframing our thoughts can be a powerful tool for shifting perspective - but are there times it can actually do more harm than good? In this eye-opening video, Teal Swan exposes the shadow side of reframing. Discover 8 hidden dangers from using it as a coping mechanism to falling into denial, toxic positivity, and even gaslighting yourself or others. Learn when reframing keeps you stuck and oversimplifies complex situations. Most importantly, find out how to reframe consciously to ensure your new perspective truly benefits you. Don't miss this crucial guide to avoiding the pitfalls of reframing.

In this thought-provoking video, Teal Swan delves into the often-overlooked issue of manipulation in romantic relationships, particularly focusing on the common behaviors exhibited by women. With candid insights, she explores the societal and psychological factors that contribute to this pattern, shedding light on the root causes and the detrimental impact it has on trust, emotional safety, and overall relationship health.

In this thought-provoking video, Teal Swan challenges the widely accepted notion that you must love yourself first before finding someone who loves you. She deconstructs this belief, offering a fresh perspective on self-love and its role in relationships.

Dive into the intriguing world of human adaptability with Teal Swan as she explores how our survival strategies can paradoxically lead us to doom. Discover the fine line between adapting for success and unwittingly sabotaging our deepest desires. This episode is a must-watch for anyone seeking to understand the complex dance between our adaptations and our aspirations. Join Teal as she unveils the transformative insights that could reshape your life’s trajectory.

In this eye-opening episode, Teal Swan delves into the complex and often misunderstood world of parental alienation. She sheds light on the abusive dynamic where one parent manipulates a child against the other, serving their own agenda. Teal offers invaluable insights for alienated parents, emphasizing the importance of understanding this transgenerational pattern and providing strategies to navigate this challenging situation. Tune in to discover how to maintain a loving connection with your child despite the odds.

Dive into the heart-wrenching world of parental alienation with Teal Swan as she unpacks the complex dynamics of this silent form of abuse. Discover how alienation not only tears apart the bond between parent and child but also inflicts deep psychological wounds.

In this captivating episode, Teal Swan delves into the mysterious and often overlooked Earth star chakra. Discover why this chakra, located below your feet, plays a crucial role in grounding and connecting you to the physical world. Teal explains how an out-of-alignment Earth star chakra can lead to fatigue, emotional instability, and even long-term health issues. But fear not! Teal provides practical tips to open and align this powerful energy center. Tune in to learn how to fully engage with life on Earth, embrace your physical existence, and unlock your zest for living!

Dive into the psyche of romantic relationships with Teal Swan as she exposes the detrimental habit many men unknowingly adopt. This episode reveals the ‘hunting’ behavior that sabotages the foundation of trust and compatibility in love. Discover why this approach leads to a zero percent success rate in relationships and how authenticity is the key to lasting romance. Tune in to unravel the truth behind the chase and learn how to foster genuine connections.

Dive into this insightful episode with Teal Swan as she explores why being intrinsically motivated in life’s actions leads to true fulfillment. Discover the pitfalls of living transactionally and how to align your actions with your authentic self for a more nourishing life experience. Tune in to learn how to transform your daily activities into sources of joy and satisfaction.

Dive into a profound exploration of morality with Teal Swan as she uncovers the often unseen pain and fear lurking beneath our rigid ideas of right and wrong. This episode challenges viewers to question their own moral certainties and consider the possibility that these beliefs may be a smoke screen for deeper emotional wounds.

Do you want to heal yourself with shadow work, or do you want to poison yourself with it? In this video, Teal Swan explains the difference between doing shadow work for yourself and doing shadow work against yourself.

In this episode, Teal Swan reveals the hidden truth about sexuality and how it plays a much bigger role in our lives and relationships than we think. She explains how our sexuality is shaped by our early life experiences, our deep desires, and our needs, and how it reflects in our personality, our expansion path, and our compatibility with others.

In this episode, Teal Swan shows you a hilarious self-awareness exercise that will challenge you to admit and be honest about your negative relationship patterns and dysfunction. You will learn how to write a personal ad that represents the harsh reality of you in relationships, but in a humorous way.

In this episode, Teal Swan reveals the hidden link between anger and self-loyalty. She explains how anger is a protector for a vulnerable aspect of ourselves that we learned to hide and defend in a world that we perceive as unsafe and full of betrayal.

In this episode, Teal Swan reveals the dark truth about how most people achieve longevity in their relationships: by adopting and adapting to dysfunction. She explains what dysfunction is, how it affects our relationships, and how we can recognize and change it.

In this video, Teal Swan exposes the truth about why you can’t change someone by loving them, and how to avoid this common relationship trap. She also shares some real-life examples of how this mistake can lead to emotional damage, trauma, and heartbreak. Watch this video to learn how to spot and avoid incompatible partners, and how to find someone who truly matches your vision for a happy life.

In this video, Teal Swan walks you through the 8 steps to participate in creating repair when someone else has done something to create a rupture in the relationship. She explains how to recognize, understand, and resolve the rupture, as well as how to own your part, put forth your needs, and be receptive to the solution.

In this episode, Teal Swan teaches you how to create repair when you are the one who has created a rupture in a relationship. She walks you through the step-by-step process of recognizing, acknowledging, empathizing, explaining, and finding a way forward.

In this episode, Teal Swan, a renowned spiritual teacher and best-selling author, shares her powerful method for emotional experiencing. This process will help you to fully feel and release your emotions, gain valuable insights from them, and prevent them from becoming triggers or traumas in your body and being.

In this episode, Teal Swan reveals the truth about anger and vulnerability that will change your perspective and your life. She explains how anger is a cover emotion that protects us from feeling vulnerable feelings such as fear, pain, and powerlessness.

What will 2024 bring for you and the world? In this video, Teal Swan reveals the dominant theme, the biggest shadows, and the most important opportunities of the upcoming year. She also gives you practical tips on how to make the best decisions, how to avoid the traps of destruction and enduris, and how to highlight the best of human potential.

In this episode, Teal Swan reveals how any value can have a positive and a negative potential, and how your deepest value can become your greatest weakness. She shares examples of how values such as achievement, service, and loyalty can lead to serious pitfalls and even ruin your life.

In this episode, Teal Swan reveals the deepest, most unconscious, and most difficult to recognize relationship apathy pattern. She explains why some people only feel valued for what they do, not for who they are, and how this leads to apathy in relationships.

In this video, Teal Swan reveals the real reason behind your negative behavior and how to change it. She explains the difference between behaviors that are motivated by a need and behaviors that are motivated by avoidance.

In this episode, Teal Swan explains the concept of ancestral healing in depth and why it is so important for our personal and collective well-being. She helps us understand how our ancestors influence us in both positive and negative ways, and how we can heal the unresolved pains and detrimental patterns that we inherited from them.

In this episode, Teal Swan clears up the confusion around compromise and workability. She explains why compromise is detrimental to your well-being and your relationship, and why workability is essential for harmony, mutual satisfaction, and success.

In this episode, Teal Swan clears up the confusion around compromise and workability. She explains why compromise is detrimental to your well-being and your relationship, and why workability is essential for harmony, mutual satisfaction, and success.

In this episode, Teal Swan shares a simple hack for getting into your feminine energy no matter what situation you may find yourself in. She explains that there are many feminine traits that do not depend on being in a safe situation or on having masculine containment, and that you can intentionally bring forth these qualities to feel more aligned with your feminine essence.

In this episode, Teal Swan talks about death, one of the most taboo and misunderstood topics in our society. She explains how death is not an endedness, but a drastic change in perspective and form that allows for expansion and enhancement of consciousness. She also shares how facing death and living with our mortality in mind can help us live a more rich, meaningful, and authentic life.

In this episode, Teal Swan explains what workability is and how to assess it in yourself and your partner. She also reveals the truth about compromise and why it can be harmful to your relationship. You will learn how to avoid incompatibility and disharmony by finding out what is and what is not workable for you. This episode will help you create the right arrangements with people and put them in the right place in your life according to your boundaries.

In this episode Teal Swan reveals one of the most common and painful patterns that causes a person to flip in a relationship. This pattern is called the codependent flip pattern. It is when someone enters into a relationship and creates a false sense of confluence with that person by sacrificing parts of themselves and suppressing their personal truths.

In this episode, Teal Swan explains what energy exchange is and how it affects every relationship we have. She reveals the two different types of energy exchange that can occur between people and how to identify which one you want and need. She also shows you how to assess compatibility and create a mutually fulfilling relationship based on energy exchange. Whether you are looking for love, friendship, or any other kind of connection, this episode will help you understand the dynamics of energy exchange and how to make it work for you.

In case you hadn’t noticed, something is happening in the universe.

In this video, Teal Swan explains some things that you might not know about purpose and offers you eight questions that you can ask yourself that will help you to find your purpose. These questions will help you to discover what is important to you, what makes you happy, what challenges you are willing to face, what problem you want to solve, what gift you have to give, and more. By answering these questions honestly and sincerely, you will be able to uncover your pre-birth intention and live a fulfilling and meaningful life. Listen Out For: - What is pre-birth intention and why it matters - How to do what is important to you and feel good in life - How to use death as a perspective to prioritize your values - How to find your passion and enter the flow state - How to accept the negatives that come with your purpose

In this video, Teal Swan reveals the truth about fear of power and explains what is really happening when you think you are "afraid of your power". She also shows you how to overcome this illusion and step into your true power. By watching this video, you will discover the hidden fears that are holding you back and how to resolve them. You will also learn how to create, direct, influence and bring about what you want in life without fearing the consequences. Listen Out For: - Fear of power is an illusion - People are afraid of experiencing something they don’t want as a result of their power being seen - People use shadow power to manipulate others who they believe have more power than they do - People scapegoat power to avoid facing their actual fears - People can step into their power by resolving their fears

In this video, Teal Swan exposes the root of anger and shows you how to regulate your anger in a healthy and empowering way. You will learn how to understand your anger, feel your anger, question your anger, identify what makes you feel powerless and unworkable, and take empowered actions to change your situation. You will also learn how to do parts work with the part of you that turns against your own anger. By following these steps, you will be able to transform your anger from a destructive force into a constructive force that helps you create the life you want.

In this video, Teal Swan will teach you how to recognize your strategies and what to do about them once you recognize them. You will discover how your strategies can prevent you from getting what you really want and need, and how they can make you lose touch with your true self. You will also learn how to consciously choose the best strategy for your situation, or drop the strategy altogether and act from a place of integrity and alignment. This episode will help you become more self-aware and authentic, and live a more fulfilling life.

In this episode, Teal Swan reveals one of the most painful and insidious patterns that can lie at the root of your suffering: using suffering as a substitute boundary. She explains how this pattern originates from childhood trauma and how it affects your relationships and your life.

In this episode, Teal Swan explores the gifts and challenges of polyamory in a candid and insightful way. She reveals the pros and cons of living a polyamorous lifestyle, such as more freedom, more resources, more personal growth, but also more complexity, more insecurity, more drama, and more social stigma.

Unlock a new Spiritual Practice in your Toolbox. When it comes to awareness work, it is important to see the full picture, not just part of it.

Join Teal as she discusses how our needs change over time and how we are socialized to conform to our environment. She explains that when we suppress our needs and try to meet them in roundabout ways, it can cause conflicts in our relationships. Teal encourages us to acknowledge our needs and find direct ways to meet them that are compatible with others. By doing so, we can avoid the pain and conflict that comes from trying to meet our needs covertly.

Listen Closely For: - Debunking the myth that adults cannot be abandoned - The impact of developmental trauma on adult behavior - The importance of taking responsibility in relationships - The damage caused by abandonment at any age - Understanding the truth about abandonment in adulthood.

Tune in as Teal Swan discusses the importance of separating sexuality from security in relationships. She delves into the history of human social structure and how it has evolved from tribe to nuclear family. She explains how this shift has led to the linking of sexuality and security and how it has caused misery for many people. Teal argues that people need to return to tribe and get their security from there rather than from one person. This is a thought-provoking and informative video that is sure to leave you with a lot to think about. Listen Closely For: - The natural social structure for humans is tribe. - The shift from tribe to nuclear family linked sexuality and security. - One person cannot reliably provide all the needs that tribe offered. - People need to return to tribe for genuine security. - Sexuality and security need to be separated in relationships.

There's a difference between "nice guys" and "kind guys". A person who is kind, is not necessarily nice. And a person who is nice is not necessarily kind. In this episode, Teal Swan reveals how being in a relationship with a nice guy, will lead to extreme pain!

Self-improvement vs being perfect he way you are. What is the right way? In this video, I'll talk about this hot topic. Sel-improvement is a. bigger than ever while at the same time, people are telling us that we are perfect the way we are. What is right?

Become aware of the WHY front. This is the secret to self awareness. Keep watching this video and I'll reveal this secret to you.

What is the covert depreciation pattern? Keep watching the video, and you'll learn more about the depreciation pattern.

Your WHY changes everything in your life. Your why will determine how people will react to you and your actions. Keep watching the video to learn more about your why.

Accept whatever you are not accepting - Why it's better to accept what is and move forward from there, instead of fighting against it.

In this episode I want to answer whether demons exist or not.

Do You Deliberately Create Insecurity in Relationships? - Some people create insecurity in relationships by purpose because of an incident in their past.

When Enough is Enough Deciding to Let Pain Go - Pain is something that can accumulate and that we can hold on to. But doing so, can ruin your life. You may reach a point where enough is enough and decide to let the pain go.

It’s Time to Break the Current Relationship Paradigm - In this video, I challenge the status quo of relationships. I want to introduce you to a new view on relationships.

Creating the Right Relationship: Perception vs Reality - How Most People Think They Can Create the Right Relationship vs. How to Actually Create the Right Relationship

In this video, Teal Swan reveals the biggest lie you were ever told about relationships.

Want to improve your life? In this episode, Teal Swan explains that when you recognize something about yourself, you have two options: Double Down or Choose to Change. Keep watching this video if you want to know what she means by Double Down or Choose to Change.

In this video, Teal Swan rectifies the two camps within spirituality... The camp that sees happiness as a byproduct of working with your desire to manifest what you want. And the camp that sees desire as suffering and happiness therefore, as a byproduct of accepting what is, and the practice of surrendering. This is the Great Spiritual Conundrum... Attain What You Desire OR Surrender to What IS.

In this video, Teal Swan rectifies the two camps within spirituality... The camp that sees happiness as a byproduct of working with your desire to manifest what you want. And the camp that sees desire as suffering and happiness therefore, as a byproduct of accepting what is, and the practice of surrendering. This is the Great Spiritual Conundrum... Attain What You Desire OR Surrender to What IS.

Angels do exist. But the story of what and who they are is different to and is more complex than the standard narrative.

If we understand that compatibility is not always about sameness, sometimes it’s about differences, we can grasp the idea that often, an important element of compatibility in relationships is about compatible trauma.

An exception I'm making...

Being stuck in limbo because of someone else can be super annoying. Being Stuck in Uncertainty is very common in many relationships and not only in romantic relationships.

Why your intention is so important - Your intention will shape the results of your actions if you have good intentions you'll behave in another way as if you would have bad intentions. Keep watching this video if you want to know more about your intentions.

Most people don't like negative feedback, but we can all benefit from negative feedback. Here is why!

There is a big difference between feeling shame and being shamed. HERE IS WHY!

What Most People Don’t Get about Aloneness  - In this episode, Teal Swan explains that aloneness is very different than loneliness. And she explains that being alone is a tool to use that doesn't necessarily have anything to do with having close relationships in your life. Keep watching if you want to know more about aloneness.

A lot of people are trying to be loved for what they are not. Instead, they should look for what they are. In this video, I'll explain how this can be achieved.

Safety is the most common reason that people ruin their relationships. This sounds counterintuitive but watch this video and you'll understand why a person's need for safety can ruin relationships.

Watch This if You Want to be Loved for Who You Are  - If you are someone who says that you “want to be loved for who you are” or who wants people to “love you for you”, it’s time to stop saying that. The reason being that it is nebulous and confusing and not specific enough and not even what you mean.

The Truth About Polyamory. Polyamorous relationships are more and more common amongst the newer generations. In this episode, Teal Swan explains polyamory as well as the different types of polyamory.

Have you noticed that changing a belief is hard? In this episode, Teal Swan explains why it is hard to change a belief.

This is what happens if you don't admit to what you want!  In this episode, Teal Swan explains why if you don't admit to what you want, there will be negative consequences for you and for everyone around you.

How would things change if everyone in the world was just like you? In this episode, Teal Swan reveals an awareness game that is both fun and awakening... The 'If Everyone in the World was Just Like Me' Game.

Fear is perhaps the greatest barrier we have to acceptance. In this episode, I'll reveal the truth about accepting someone for who they are.

I could write an entire book on the problem with the woke culture that we are seeing today and on just how not woke it is. But what I will leave you with is this: There is nothing woke about a person who cannot see the dangers inherent in wokeness itself.

Want to know what is going to happen in 2023? Here are the much anticipated Teal Swan predictions for 2023.

You often hear people saying: 'I think I'm afraid of success'. But it isn't actually true. In this video, Teal swan explains that there is no such thing as the fear of success. And she tells you what is really happening instead.

Do you know what the covert boundary pattern is? In this episode, Teal Swan explains the covert boundary pattern and how to prevent it from destroying your life and your relationships.

As some would say it, we start to “should” all over ourselves. We think that acting in alignment with our “should” or “should nots” is going to guarantee our success in life. But it isn’t. In fact, you can’t get anywhere with should or shouldn’t. Should or shouldn’t does not matter. And here are some key reasons why.

Simple pleasures that make our life experience rich and that are the ‘stuff of joy’.

One of the most powerful things you can do, is to work with and integrate the part of you that is your internal self rejector and the vulnerable part that created it as a strategy of protection. This is why.

A healthy relationship is not necessarily a super long relationship. In this episode I'll explain why a happy relationship can't be measured based on its longevity.

In this video Teal Swan reveals the biggest mistake that people make about relationship security. This mistake can lead directly to relationship hell. Keep watching if you want to know more.

The sickest game you can play is fuelled by society and a typical relationship pattern. If you want to know more about the sickest game of our society, tune in to learn more about this relationship pattern.

What is Santa Claus Complex? In this video, Teal Swan explains what Santa Claus complex is and explains why recognizing and changing this pattern is so important.

One of the questions that I have received the very most over the years is: What are mankind’s greatest strengths and greatest weaknesses? I’m going to answer that question for you today.

You'll learn why trauma plays a role in purpose and why it can be the root of failure or success. If you're interested in this topic keep watching my newest video on Trauma.

How To Make A Decision? I want to show you an exercise that will help your decision-making and will make your life so much simpler. If you want to know how to make a decision stick around and listen to this episode.

The Truth About Finding Yourself in a Repeat Situation - In this episode, Teal explains why we end up in the same unwanted experience (a repeat situation) as well as what to do about it if you do!

No one can agree upon the picture of success. And this is because 1. People disagree about what aim or purpose is good and right. And 2. Not everyone wants the same thing because people have different values, needs and desires.

Why You Should Throw The Idea of Work Life Balance Out the Window - In this video Teal explains why the idea of work-life balance doesn't work!

Metaphorically speaking, we can get into trouble when we only wear rosy colored glasses through which to view reality and we can get in trouble when we only wear dark glasses through which to view reality. And today, we are going to talk about one dysfunctional behavior that is rampant within human society and that occurs when we slip into a bias towards the positive polarity inherent within reality… Negating negatives with positives, which is a form of toxic positivity.

Here is where some serious confusion needs to be cleared up.

The Ticket to an Empowered Life  - Do you want to know what the ticket to an empowered life is and how you can use it? Keep watching and Teal will explain it in this video.

We tend to make the basic assumption that if we are around something positive or that holds a higher vibe, that we will begin to feel better. But this is not necessarily the case and today, I’m going to explain why.

Do You Make Love the Prerequisite for Getting What You Want? In this episode I'm going to explain to you why some people make love the prerequisite for getting what they want.

In this video I'm going to talk about what I mean by this question: Do You Only Feel Loved When Someone Doesn't Ask You To Change?

Why is the last words letter a deep relationship exercise? Keep watching the video if you want to know why the letter of the last word is such a deep relationship exercise.

What is the underdog effect? In this video, Teal explains what the underdog effect is. And helps us not to slip into the shadows associated with it.

In this video, Teal Swan explains that many people either base their relationships on compromise or on compatibility. And because of this, they are operating from two different relationship paradigms. What kind of person are you?

In this video Teal explains what the human hyphen pattern. The human hyphen pattern prevents authenticity and compatibility in relationships.

Teal Swan's Life Improvement Process - In this episode I'll talk about my life improvement process.

A Major Misunderstanding of The Law of Attraction  IN this video I'm going to talk about the law of attraction and a major misunderstanding. So keep watching if you want to know more about the major misunderstanding of the law of attraction.

Black or white thinking is a form of cognitive distortion. It is to miss the whole, objective view of something. So, challenge yourself to hold dichotomy.

Knowing your truth and being and living in alignment with your truth is a critical part of creating a happy life. If you don’t know your truth and live according to it, you will never create a life that is right for you. You won’t make the right choices for yourself, you won’t find people who are actually compatible to you, you won’t speak the truth, you won’t do what is right for you to do. And you will unintentionally gaslight everyone.

What is Anger and the False Villain Dynamic? In this video, Teal Swan explains what the Anger and the False Villain Dynamic is.

Are you pushing against the past? In this video, Teal Swan shows you how and why a lot of people are pushing against the past. She explains why pushing against the past is a way to stay stuck and unable to move forward.

In this video, I'm going to explain to you what the trauma healing paradox is and will explain exactly to you how you can recognize the trauma healing paradox.

This is the most direct way to exact your personal power on the world. And nothing and no one can prevent you from doing it.

Resource People! Everyone Around You is a Resource  In this video I'm going to explain why people are a resource and why you should use them. So keep watching it you want to know why people can be seen as a resource.

In this video, Teal explains that the survival of the human race depends on having a "you", not just a "me" To awaken, you must see your impact on others!

Why you should set boundaries to get support from the universe - Do you want to know why you should set boundaries to get support from the universe? Then you should keep watching this video and how you can set boundaries to get support from the universe.

A Romantic Relationship Is NOT All There Is  When people think about relationships they always glorify a romantic relationship. But a romantic relationship is not all there is. Our 'normal' relationships are equally as important.

Do You Want To Be Honest or Do You Want To Be Strategic? A decision everyone has to make in life. There're consequences whether you're honest or strategic in your life. In this video, I'll explain the difference between being honest and being strategic.

Resistance is most of the time considered a bad thing, especially in the self-help and spiritual space. Let me explain to you why resistance is not always bad.

Want to know why compatibility in a relationship is not about sameness? Most people think sameness in a relationship is good because that means you're automatically compatible with your partner. But that is not always the case.

The truth about narcissism and codependency is that they are not personality disorders. They are adaptive relationship strategies. Now that I have hit you with that truth straight out of the gate, let me explain.

Powerful Spiritual Practice: Become Like a Child. Children have a different point of view than adults. And allowing this child like perspective and way of being to return to us is a powerful spiritual practice.

Why it's dangerous to stay in your comfort zone. In this video I'm going to talk about the danger of being committed to comfort. The comfort zone is a place where you don't risk anything. But when we don't take a risk, and we stay in the comfort zone, we are taking the biggest risk of all. You may think you're safe in the comfort zone. But the comfort zone is actually the most dangerous place of all. Watch this video to find out why.  

The Great Dupe of Dating. When we start dating someone, we run the risk of duping them unintentionally. And by doing so, guaranteeing that the relationship will fail later on down the road.

Are You Only Honest When You Feel Like There Are No Consequences? In this video I'm going to talk about why some people are only honest when they don't have to fear any consequences for their honesty.

In this episode, I'm going to talk about why you should accept incompatibility to avoid relationship hell. A lot of people these days don't accept incompatibility and waste time trying to fix it.

Want to know why signs and synchronicities might lead you to something that feels bad instead of good? Teal Swan explains why in depth in this episode!

Ever heard of the "no matter what" pattern in relationships? It's basically conditional love. In this video, I'm going to explain to you what the "no matter what' pattern is. After watching this video you will know if some of your relationships have been affected by this pattern.

People are not attached to their pain  - It's a common belief in the mental health and psychology space that people don't want help because they are attached to their pain. But that's not true, no one enjoys to suffer.

Forecast 2022 What will the new year bring? In this video I'm going to talk about the year 2022 and what it will bring us in the new year.

Self Awareness Game - What do I really look like Do you want to know how this interesting self awareness game works? I'll explain to you how the what do I really look like works.

How to deal with unworkability - Relationship Advice. Unworkability is a pattern that can crop up in all sorts of relationships. For example, you can see unworkability with coworkers and you can see unworkability in a love relationship.

Gratitude - The Power of Appreciation.  Gratitude can be difficult  especially for those people who are gratitude resistant.  Any of you that are practicing conscious manifestation have been made aware of the power of gratitude. You have learned that the key to manifestation is having an “attitude of gratitude”. Some of you have embraced this idea of living from a space of gratitude full heartedly. Others of you hear the word gratitude, much less the phrase “attitude of gratitude”, and immediately cringe. The thing is, gratitude is where happiness begins. And gratitude genuinely is a priceless tool when it comes to conscious manifestation. Therefore, today I’m going to make a case for gratitude which will cause those of you who are gratitude resistant to release your resistance to gratitude; and which will cause those of you who have embraced gratitude to love it even more.

The “oopsie, I’m sorry” power play -  Is a really bad but common relationship habit. In this video I'm going to explain to you what the “oopsie, I’m sorry” power play is. Many of us struggle to maintain our sense of power in relationships. As a result, we develop all kinds of strategies for doing so. And this often leads to both overt and covert power struggles within our relationships. Today, we are going to be talking about one of these strategies for getting power in relationships. It is a pattern that I like to call the “Oopsie, I’m Sorry” power play.

What is the my planet game? It is a game that will tell you a lot about yourself and show you how you think and act. In this video, I will explain to you how the 'my planet game' will help to get to know yourself better. Differences can make for painful incompatibilities. But differences can also make for healthy compatibilities that lead to all kinds of positive things. When we are suffering as a result of the differences between ourselves and other people, it is tempting to think that if everyone was just like us, there would be no problems in the world. For this reason, it is good to do awareness exercises so that you can clearly see your positives and negatives, strengths and weakness, what you possess and what you lack and also the danger of there being no counter energies to your own character traits, perspectives and values. One of the best exercises for this is a little game I like to play with people called the “My Planet” game. What’s great about this game is that even though it will challenge your ego, it is also really fun to do. 

Why It Is Important To Keep Your Word- In this video I'll explain to you why your word is powerful. One of the principles of so many spiritual paths and so many self-development paths is to be conscious relative to your word. It is a principle that crosses so many disciplines because it is so true and because it is so important. Being conscious relative to your word involves all kinds of commitments. Commitments such as being honest and speaking truth, having integrity regarding your words and actions, speaking in a way that aligns you with what you desire, using your words as a powerful tool for conscious and intentional creation, saying only what you mean, and being conscious that words can either be used as a negative weapon or as a tool for positivity, love and truth etc. But today, we are going to talk about just one of these commitments relative to your word and that is: Keeping your word.

Inner voice what is that? The inner critic is your friend, not your enemy. The voice in your head can be pretty loud and some people want to overcome their inner voice and don't want to listen to their inner voice. But we have to listen to our inner monologue. It's about understanding our inner voice because the inner critic is our friend.

Shadow work is a really powerful tool, but if you don't plan on actually making changes, don't do shadow work. By this point, you have already heard of shadow work. To sum it up in a neat little package, shadow work is the practice of becoming conscious of the unconscious aspects within you. This integration of unconsciousness ultimately leads to complete and total awareness. Shadow work is absolutely essential if you want to be an integrated person, if you want to actualize your personal power, if you want to walk the earth without fear, if you want to step into a place of free will instead of determinism, if you want to become awakened, if you want to know yourself, if you want to create the life you want in reality, if you want to end your suffering and/or the suffering in the world and the list goes on and on. To understand more about this, you can watch two of my videos. The first is: What is Shadow Work?. The second is: What are the Benefits of Shadow Work. Ultimately, shadow work is my specialty. For this reason, what I am about to say is something that you should take very, very seriously: Do not do shadow work if you don’t plan on actually making a change.

Knowing the truth can hurt but you should still accept the truth. In this video, I'm going to talk about why you should know and accept the truth even if it hurts. After this video, you'll also know why you should always say the #truth

The truth can be very tough to accept. That's why some people don't want to hear or speak the truth. But in fact, it's not that easy. In this video, I'll talk about this sensitive topic.

The other day, someone overheard me sweet talking my own cell phone when I accidentally dropped it. And of course, like most people would do, they teased me for it. It is easy to assume, based on how I acted, that I have personified my cell phone and projected the feelings that I would have if I were dropped, onto the cell phone… I cannot even tell you how much I wish that were the case. But it’s not. Because of that interaction, it became obvious to me that the vast majority of people on earth do not understand technology. Nor do they understand just what a dangerous position we have already gotten ourselves into relative to technology (much less the dangerous position we will get ourselves into in the future). And for this reason, I’m going to help you to understand technology more clearly.

Why School Can Be A Way To Avoid Taking Responsibility  In this video I'm going to explain how some people avoid taking responsibility by endless learning. Learning is something that is seen as a good and right thing to do in human society today. This means it makes you see yourself (and also other people see you) as right and good when you dedicate yourself to it… to acquiring new and more knowledge. And to acquiring new skills and credentials. You don’t need me to sit here and tell you that learning is a good thing. Some people enjoy the experience of learning and therefore do more of it than other people. But no matter who you are, learning is part of the process of progressing and expanding and therefore, it is something that never ends. You will be learning for the rest of your life. But today, for the sake of your awareness, you need to become aware of a shadow that can use learning to hide behind.

So many people encounter relationship problems and feel like because those problems pose such a threat (a threat to things like their survival and needs and self-concept etc), they can’t face them, take charge of them and work through them. Instead, they find a way to deny, displace, disown, project, deflect, suppress and avoid them. And today, I’m going to tell you about just one of the most common strategies that people use to do this… They find a bad guy.

Why the 'If You Love Me' pattern is responsible for many breakups  What reason is responsible for so many breakups? It's the 'if you love me' pattern. In this video I'm going to explain to you what the ' if you love me' pattern is.

Limbo is an uncertain period of time or state of uncertainty and/or non resolution, where a person is awaiting an important decision, action or resolution. It is an intermediate state or condition.  There are some reasons why a person would actually get a positive kickback by creating or maintaining a state of limbo for themselves and/or for others. 

Teal Swan's Message for Humanity

You cannot truly ever own anything you come into contact with. All you can do is to enjoy it and be with it for a time. All you can do, is to experience the great honor and rewards of being a steward for certain people, places and things here. All things in existence have agency, autonomy, independent will, desires, needs and best interests that may be different from your own. You are merely in a relationship with all things.

Why It Takes Two to Make a Relationship Work and Only One to Ruin It.  It only takes one person to ruin a relationship but it takes two to make a #relationship work. In this video I'm going to explain to you what I mean by that. It’s time to dismantle a revered societal belief, because this societal belief prevents people from seeing the truth of relationships as they really are. The belief it’s time to dismantle is: It takes two to ruin a relationship.

Be Consciously Transactional. Why Every Relationship is Transactional Today, I’m going to take you way out on a limb by challenging one of the beliefs that current society holds most dear. I ask you to proceed with a very open mind. Because changing the perspective you hold about this, has the capacity to positively overhaul your life. 

Have you ever been in a situation where a huge conflict occurs, something really bad happens or someone really hurts you and the next minute (maybe the next time you see them) they are pretending like nothing ever happened?

Why Living At Home With Your Parents Can Be A Bad Idea - In this video I'll explain to you why living with your parents can be a bad idea. If you want to know why living with your parents can be counterproductive if you want to grow keep watching this video.

Why Some People Don't Want To Solve Conflict in a Relationship  In this video I'm going to explain to you why some people just don't want to solve conflicts in a relationship. Conflict is so unpleasant and even painful that it is easy to assume that every person wants the same thing when a conflict occurs: Resolve and Repair. The problem with this assumption is that it isn’t true. Some people in certain situations don’t actually want resolve and don’t actually want repair. And when we don’t understand this, or the reasons why they don’t, we can end up pretty confused as to why nothing we do to create resolve and repair ever works. 

If you are feeling the need for a total reset, use this hack. And see for yourself just how powerful it can be.

So often, when you ask a couple, that has been married for a long time, what the key to a successful relationship is, they will say: Compromise. Compromise is often treated like the sacred cow of relationships. But it’s time for this outdated idea to come to an end. It’s time for people to change their definition of what a successful relationship is. And to see that if you want a relationship that feels good, compromise is to be intentionally avoided.

Have you noticed that you keep ending up in the same unwanted scenario? It’s a bit like a nightmare episode of ground hog’s day? At times like this, you may find yourself feeling like the universe is against you. You may ask why you deserve to go through the same thing again.

What is The Only You Pattern in Relationships? The only you pattern is very typical in relationships these days. In this video, I want to explain to you what the only you pattern is about.

Why The Choose Me Dynamic Can Be Toxic For Relationships  Toxic relationships have certain patterns. One of those patterns is the choose me dynamic. In our formative years, our life experience can put us in a situation (or maybe even into chronic situations) where a person (or the people) in our life does not find a win-win scenario and as a result, chooses between us or our best interests and something else. It’s the child whose dad chooses to move to a different part of the country to be with the new step mom. It’s the child who felt replaced by a younger sibling that was preferred. It’s the child whose dad chooses the needs of his own career rather than to be there for the child when he or she needs him. It’s the child who is put into the middle of a contentious divorce and is expected to choose between mom and dad and thus learns that being chosen is what love is. This type of experience can cause a great deal of trauma. Not only can it cause a great deal of trauma, it can give rise to a dysfunctional association between being chosen and love.

As a human being, you are wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain… Seek the wanted, avoid the unwanted. This wiring governs your decisions and actions. As with anything, there are upsides to this design and downsides to this design. And one of these downsides can get in the way of life satisfaction as well as success.

What Is The "Yes Pattern" in Relationships? In this video, I want to explain to you what the yes pattern in a relationship is and how it's affecting you Humanity is in the process of learning how an individual can have themselves and be in a relationship with another person at the exact same time. At the current moment, most of humanity does not know how to do this. Many people feel like they have to choose between having their own personal truth (including thoughts, feelings, preferences, aversions, desires etc) and being alone. Or to be close, connected and together with others at the price of giving up their personal truth. When they do this, there is very little authenticity in the relationship. Very little actual honesty. Being inauthentic is exhausting. It feels bad. It feels like closeness, love and connection is conditional upon putting on an act and being different than you are.

Committed to Success? Be Willing To Be Seen as Bad by Others How committed are you to success? If you want to have success it has to be ok if others see you as a bad guy. You don't have to be bad or rude. In this video I will tell you why others can see you as bad when you're committed to success.

Have you ever found yourself in a romantic relationship, friendship relationship or work-related relationship where no matter how many times you seem to find resolve in a conflict, it feels like shortly after, it goes right back to being un-resolved?

Why People Are Stuck in The Cycle of Either Complying or Rebelling Most people are stuck in a cycle of either complying or rebelling. I'll explain to you why is that and how people can fix that.

What is the purpose of life? This question has plagued people for centuries. It is the subject of religious, philosophical and cultural debate the world over. No person lives their life without asking this question at least once. When we ask this question, the first thing we are curious about is whether life (including our own individual life) is a random accident or whether life was created intentionally and therefore, has some inherent reason to exist and some intrinsic value. For this reason, I am going to explain the purpose of life, including why it is so important and what is so good and valuable about being alive. Essentially, I’m going to make a case for incarnation; for physical life.

Power is energy. It is the inherent capacity to create, direct, influence or do something so as to bring about what you want. All people desire this, regardless of whether other people are in the picture or not.

Something very important to understand about life is that it doesn’t matter how much information you have, if you don’t apply it. It doesn’t matter how much mental and emotional processing you do, if you never make a change. It doesn’t matter how much you want something, if you never take action towards what you want.

Self development - What is the transcendental power trip? When you're into self-development you should know about the transcendental power trip.

All people possess an internal guidance system. Sometimes people call it ‘the inner voice’. Sometimes people call it ‘the internal compass’. Sometimes people call it their emotional guidance system. This internal guidance system helps a person navigate life, make choices and keep heading towards their desires. But people make a faulty assumption about the internal guidance system. The faulty assumption people make is that the inner compass will always lead you to pleasure and never pain.

Follow along with this exercise, keeping in mind that it is important to try to concentrate on how you feel about what you are describing and not just on how it looks. For example, you may describe something as a certain color because it gives you a feeling of calmness. However, another person may describe a different color but say that it gives him or her a sense of calmness. In other words, though both people picture the thing differently, the interpretations of their answers are the same - the color, represents calmness to them.

How Discipline Leads to Happiness - Do you want to know how discipline can lead you to happiness? In this video, I'll explain how you can achieve happiness by just being disciplined.

Are You Afraid of Desire? The Truth About Desire  Are you afraid of desire in today's video I'll explain why most people are afraid of desire and what the real truth about desire is. If you want to know more about desire, keep watching this video.

To Cry or Not to Cry? When to be Emotional as a Man - Should a man be emotional? Is it ok to cry or should a man not cry at all? Society is full of mixed messages because people are full of #mixedmessages.  To say that these mixed messages make it really hard to know what to do and not do, is the understatement of the century. One area in which these mixed messages create a big problem is in the #relationship between men and women. So today I’m going to sort through one such mixed message for you. And this time, it’s going to be a mixed message that women give to men. Let’s call it the “#cry but don’t cry” message.

Why Love Isn't Selfless, Love is Selfish. In this video I'll explain why love is selfish and not why love isn't selfless.  To generalize, wherever you go in the world, in human society selflessness is a huge value.  At face value, this seems like a good thing.  After all, if everyone was just running around in a self-centered way doing whatever they wanted, regardless of who it negatively impacted, social wellbeing and especially social order would be hard to maintain.

There are a few common dysfunctional relationship patterns that people slip into that if not resolved, will cause inevitable end to a relationship.  One of those patterns is one that I call the “Dupe Pattern”.  This pattern is particularly hard to consciously recognize, beyond the overall feeling it causes that you are somehow and suddenly in a relationship that you didn’t sign up for; perhaps the exact opposite of the relationship that you signed up for.  It is this ‘Dupe Pattern’ that I’m going to expose to you today.

So often, when I’m speaking about relationships between men and women, I mention the importance of a man providing ‘containment’ for the woman he is with.  As it turns out, many men and women both are confused about what containment even is, much less how to provide containment for someone.  For this reason, I’ve decided to write this article entirely about containment.

Relationship Advice For Women - Boost a Man's Confidence! I'll show you how you can boost a man's confidence through a simple relationship advice for women. If you want a great relationship advice and want to know how to boost a man's confidence, keep watching.

It doesn’t take a genius to look at the world today and to see just how divided people are.  Relative to almost every subject, there are concrete sides.  This creates a dramatic polarization.  That polarization fuels division and war.  Especially because so many of these polarizations that exist today are about fears, insecurities and therefore deeply held values.  So, what do we do if we want unity in the world?

Why women like assholes and why are they not attracted to nice guys. Let's find out why women like assholes in this video I'll talk about the reasons why women aren't attracted to nice guys... As you know, there is a general feeling amongst both men and women that nice guys are out of luck and have to turn mean if they want a woman, because women like assholes.  For those of you who don’t know English so well, an asshole is a guy who is unresponsive to the feelings and needs of others.  He is intentionally cruel, obnoxious and heartless.  It is the masculine equivalent to a bitch.

Find out what gives you energy. Are you curious about how to get more energy? In this video, I'll talk specifically about the process of how you can get more energy. People feel the best when they are full of #energy. But energy is something that most people go about getting in a subconscious way. It is a rare person who asks themselves: What would GIVE me energy right now? And goes directly for that. But that is exactly what I am going to ask you to do today and this is exactly the tool I want you to put into your tool basket.

Is life about the journey or the destination? In this video we'll find out whether life is about the journey or the destination: To some degree, all people are both outcome oriented and process oriented. This means that all people are both destination and journey oriented. The question is, to what degree? Some people derive much more pleasure and energy out of achievement and some derive much more pleasure and effort out of process.

How to trust yourself and how to build self-trust. Did you ask yourself how you can trust yourself better or how to build self-trust? In this video, I'll cover how you can build self-trust.

The inner child of yours symbolizes the core of your emotional self. The raw essence and vulnerability of your personal truth.

Though building resiliency in yourself and in the sectors of your life is always a good idea, in today’s world it is absolutely critical.

It is a big mistake to think that 2021 will be a year for “getting back to the way things were.” Anyway, I want to give you some tips for 2021 to help you to get the most out of it.

Giving and receiving are a natural part of life, just like an inhale and an exhale.  Both are an essential part of life satisfaction.  Both are also a necessary part of relationships.  But people can have a painful relationship with giving or receiving or both.  A while ago, I did a video titled: How To Receive.  If you feel you have trouble receiving, you will want to watch that video!  Today, in this article, we’re going to talk about How To Give.

Gifts may not be your love language.  It may be a love language that you struggle at.  But it is an important language to develop, especially because you may just come across someone who receives love in that way.  And so today, I’m going to help you with how to speak the love language of gifts.

Today, I’m going to explain to you what #enmeshment is and also the common effects that it has on a person’s life. I want you to imagine a child who is sitting at a high chair. This child is not hungry and pushes the spoon away from his mouth. His mother refuses to #acknowledge that “I’m not hungry” is the #truth for this child and so she gets angry and shoves the spoon in the child’s mouth anyway.

Orphan Complex - What a lot of people don’t realize is that the experience of #orphanhood exists as on a scale of severity.

When we use the word stress, usually we are implying that stress is a purely negative thing. But not all stress is the same. To generalize, there are two different types of #stress. Distress and Eustress.

How to understand #family? Family is the framework of human society and the system into which a physical human is typically born and #socialized, it is critical to become aware of family in general.

There is an unhealthy tendency that can arise when a person is healing, which can easily be confused for healing, but that is in fact simply a dramatic swing into the opposite manifestation of unhealthy… A pendulum swing.

The better the question, the better the answer. For this reason, I have selected a collection of 100 of the most powerful questions that you can ask yourself. You can find all of the questions written down at https://tealswan.com/100questions/

There is a question you can ask yourself that will define your deepest joy, your actual purpose, your actual commitment and therefore the actual correct course of your life. That question is: What Pain Will You Say Yes to?

It is inevitable in life that certain circumstances, events and experiences will call your life into question. They will cause you to #re-evaluate your #life. For example, when someone gets married, it might cause you to question the quality and satisfaction of your own #relationships or the sacrifices you might be making for the sake of your career.

How to get over the fear of responsibility? The fear of responsibility is actually common enough that it has even been given a name: Hypengyophobia.

Looking to complete something or finish what you start is an important element of creating success, except for when it comes to things where there is never going to be an end. And one of the reasons that people suffer is that they tend to look for a point of ended-ness in things that have no end. They look to get things done, when there is no way to get it done.

Shadow work is the process of making the unconscious conscious and the unacceptable, acceptable. It includes any process or practice that makes you aware of the unconscious and which brings about the integration of unconsciousness.

Spirituality and self-help and personal development and psychology and relationships and health and wellness are so enmeshed that as far as markets go, they are often considered to be one and the same field. But In today’s episode, I’m going to show you the bigger picture as to why they absolutely do go hand in hand.

Agree to disagree is a common English phrase, though some variation of the concept that it conveys exists in nearly every culture on the planet.  It essentially means that no resolution to a disagreement, debate or quarrel will occur and so continuing it is unnecessary, ineffective and pointless.  Therefore, it must come to end by each party tolerating but not accepting the other’s opposing opinion.  Essentially, the only way to find alignment is to agree upon dropping the debate and simply consent to disagreeing (having different opinions on a subject).  Many people within society believe that agreeing to disagree is a mature, conscious and amicable thing to do.  But the reality is quite the opposite.

The Orgy Game is a fun and light personality game invented by Teal Swan. Get your friends and/or family together for some fun. Here's how you play the game: If 8 characters (real or fictional) came together for an orgy, and the combination of everyone at that orgy created... you. Which 8 characters would have been there? And where would it have taken place? Have your friends/family put together this list for you and share what they came up with in the comments below this video.

Are You Anti Human? People are #intelligent enough to have self-concept amongst other things, but are not yet intelligent enough to ensure that their intelligence doesn’t cause problems for themselves and for other species on the planet.  They have used that intelligence for thousands of years to go against their own #nature.  People have gone into resistance relative to what is human about themselves and others.  They have become #anti-human with themselves and with each other.

#Ghosting isn’t a new thing; however, it is getting progressively more common in large part because of social media. The more that connection is taking place online or via text and the less mutual social connections two people share, the easier it is and the less consequences there are for pulling a #disappearing act. Because of this, it is practically an epidemic in the modern dating world. And unfortunately, the more it happens (either to us or our friends and family) the more normalized it becomes within society.

How Normalization is Hurting You and Society

What is cancel culture and how does it work? #Cancel culture is a shared #social attitude and custom of trying to get rid of the source of something you dislike (the person saying or doing something) rather than trying to resolve or enter into conflict with the words or actions themselves. A good example of this is: Let’s imagine that a famous actress said she does not believe in vaccines. Instead of entering into a constructive debate about vaccines, people simply decide because of her opinion that they dislike, to organize to make it so that she, herself is eradicated from the public eye. They attack her character.

You see yourself as an “I” or a “me”. The problem is, this perception of yourself does not accommodate for the full truth of you. In fact, it can obscure the truth of you. If you see yourself in this way, you can only see the forest and not the trees. In fact, the single biggest step you can take towards #self-awareness and #awakening is: To begin to see yourself as an #ecosystem that is being called by one name.

If you are #cynical, at some point in your life, you experienced one or several serious let downs. Catastrophic sudden shocks or #disappointments relative to the positive elements of your life. For example, a situation or many that caused a catastrophic blow to your belief in others, hopes, dreams, goals, trust, faith, desires, or expectations.

When we say we want #unconditional #love, what we really mean is that we want an unconditional relationship. We want a #relationship with no consequences. We want a relationship where no matter what we do or don’t do, the other person will continue to value us and appreciate us to the degree that they will feel good towards us and never ever get into conflict suffering with us or want to leave us. Sit with this for a minute.

#Back pain is an all-consuming experience. You will not realize how much you depend on your back on a daily basis until it is “#injured”. And when it is, you will feel crippled. It is also an emotionally intimidating experience, especially for people who use movement to turn down or turn off their negative emotions.

What is the truth behind acts of #kindness? Why do we do nice things for people? There is no such thing as #altruism in the universe.  Before you panic about this and decide the universe is evil, consider that in a universe where at the most fundamental level all is one, there cannot be altruism.  Altruism is a concept that can only exist in a reality of self vs. other and thus in an atmosphere of separation.  This means that acting selflessly is not actually possible.  And self-sacrifice is in fact a #self-centered act.

Why people don't #change? The answer is because there is #resistance to the change. In other words, not all energies involved are a ‘yes’ to the change, some are a ‘no’ to the change. This is very hard to recognize when you are not conscious of the resistance. For example, let’s imagine that what you really, really want is to have a loving partner. You may not be conscious of parts of yourself that think having a loving partner would mean losing your sense of autonomy. And so you may consciously be doing everything to get a partner while in the background, the other parts of you are #sabotaging every effort you make relative to finding a partner and are keeping you single on purpose.

I am writing this as a pandemic crisis, #anti-racism/#police brutality protests and rioting, as well as a recession, are what currently defines human society. The shadow of human society today can be summed up in one word: Hostile. And we are suffering from it greatly. And it just so happens that the antidote is: #Kindness.

It is one thing to grasp a concept and another to say that a concept is your #truth. For example, I may do a video in which I present the truth that ‘there is no such thing as self-sabotage’. People will listen to the #concept and grasp the idea in and of itself. But do they really 'get it' to the degree that it becomes their truth?

Today, we’re going to talk about perhaps the biggest misconception about love and that is that love is approval. This concept sounds simple, but is a whole book in and of itself. But today, Teal Swan is going to give you an overview.

Anger is about unworkability. If you feel anger, it means that you perceive something to be unworkable. When something is unworkable, it implies that you are powerless to it staying the way it is. And if there is anger present, you really need that particular something to change or else it is a “lifetime sentence of pain”.

A stereotype is a generalization about the members of a group. It is often a widely held impression or belief relative to a type of thing. In today’s world, generalizing and stereotyping is generally considered to be a bad, ignorant and even shameful thing to do. It is not politically correct. For more information about this, you should watch my video titled: Political Correctness. But today, I’m going to explain why the baby of generalizing shouldn’t be thrown out with the bathwater of generalizing.

The millennial generation or the so-called generation why is a game-changer generation. However, to get to the place where the game is changed, the existing rules of the game had to have proved to be detrimental. And the trauma of experiencing those detrimental aspects of the game have led the millennial generation to a cross roads.

What is wrong with Millennials or the so-called generation WHY? I want to explain the millennial generation. I must first warn you that to talk about a group consciousness, I must generalize. We are going to begin at a high level. If you were to look through the lens of objective universal consciousness, you would see that the millennial generation is a “game changer” generation. It exists to collapse one society and re-build another one. It exists to bring humanity into free will. This is part of why they have come to adulthood in the information age, where there are so many choices.

What Is Your Motivation For Decisions? I want you to think of the face of a compass. Imagine that South represents the unwanted. And due North represents what you really want. When you have a clear idea of what South is, you can use that awareness to then define what direction true North is and start taking actions in that direction instead. But many people don’t do this. They see South and don’t want to go South and so they go East or West simply to avoid going South. Or they keep going South, hoping that it will magically turn into North. Or they keep pointing South, screaming that the South should change into the North because it is so wrong for being the South. Essentially, they live their life fighting South or avoiding it. Some people spend their lives fighting the unwanted or avoiding it. Neither is actually going in the direction of what they DO want.

To half-ass something is to do it with little effort or care. People who are excellent, never half-ass anything they do, no matter what it is and no matter if it is something they feel minimal motivation to do. Either they give it their best or they don’t do it at all. And the sense of pride they feel as a result, is a form of self-esteem that no one can give to them and no one can take away from them.

Take your power back! What does this mean? There are situations in life where you feel disempowered and at the mercy of others. In times like this, it's infuriating to hear other people say: 'You've given away too much of your power.' This doesn't make automatic sense to most people. After all, you didn't consciously give something away. That's why you have to realize first that you have power and once you've realized that, you can get your sense of power back.

What is your relationship to Authority?  When we perceive someone or something has an element of power or control over us, such as government, police, parental figures or experts we call this Authority.  This relationship is dictated by the relationship we had with our primary caregivers, but often the awareness of our authority patterns are stuffed deep in the subconscious.

Placation is an integral aspect of human social psychology. It has been used throughout human history to maintain order and balance. But many have turned this social tool into a way of relating, losing themselves in the process. They are now trapped in relationships where placation comes before honesty and authenticity. Teal Swan helps bring awareness to this relationship pattern so you can live a more authentic life.

We enter relationships with an idea of what it will be like, thinking that we know the person we are with. This excitement often overshadows incompatibilities that are present in the relationship. Our desperation to belong, causes us to modify ourselves. We attempt to modify ourselves in order to ‘fit’ together or we try to get the other person to ‘fit’ to us. Teal explains this relationship tendency in-depth so that you can recognize it when you or someone else is stuck in it.

As Social Creatures and Social Beings, Rejection is one of the most difficult facets of life that humans can experience. If we are rejected within our social system or relationships it usually indicates unwanted behavior. Often we turn the idea that our own behavior is what needs to change and this can lead to the damaging rejection of ourselves if we feel powerless to change. Perhaps you don't need to change your behavior but your environment?

The COVID-19 (Corona Virus) Outbreak is spreading throughout the world, but what is spreading faster is the fear and panic surrounding it.  You have fear within yourself and you have the power to take care of your fear so that it does not ruin your life.  Teal Swan speaks on the Corona Virus, Covid-19.

In General the Spiritual Field can be divided into two camps.  One that uses spirituality to Feel Better and one that uses Spirituality to gain more awareness.  Often we project onto others why we are into Spirituality and this creates conflict and misunderstanding.  If you are watching this video to feel better, I suggest you click away.

Gaslighting is form of intimidation or psychological abuse, sometimes called Ambient Abuse where false information is presented to the victim, making them doubt their own memory, perception and quite often, their sanity.  What can we do when someone is gaslighting us or can we discover if we are gaslighting others?  Teal dives into this psychological technique to create awareness around the manipulation that may be present in our lives.

Self Sacrifice is often idolized in our society.  Jesus sacrificed himself for our sins.  A mother sacrifices herself for her children.  But is this Self Sacrifice or is it Self Centeredness? Teal takes us in depth into motivation and what drives us.

There are many lies that parents tell themselves about why they have or want children. This is not an exercise in shame, it is for awareness so that our parenting and relationships with children can be the best and most pure.

The Value Realization examines in depth what Value inherently is.  Value has a conditional and subjective existence.  Values' existence is based upon the needs of the person who perceives the value.

Teal breaks down a component of her success for you here. This barrier to success actually lies at the heart of a grand design of our societal disfunction. Somewhere along the line we started valuing our time instead of valuing our results.

Many of us live in a dichotomous world where we are told we can create whatever we want from our lives, choose any profession, live any life, yet we find ourselves saying “I have to do this” all the time. This video helps you either change or reframe those “I Have To’s” into “I Want To’s”...

Today, I’m going to explain to you what parts work is as well as offer you one of my simple methods for how to do it.  Parts Work is widely known throughout the Spiritual and Psychology / Therapy community.  In general it refers in integrating the fragmented aspects of ourselves.  I’m excited to show you this today.

The Freedom Vs Connection Split within Humanity can first be recognized any time we feel torn between our need for (fill in the blank) and our need for closeness/connection with someone. In this episode, Teal Swan helps us recognize this epidemic pattern within ourselves.

In this Ask Teal, we are taken through an exercise in AND Consciousness.  What your Parents did right is a video in which Teal Swan asks us to draw from the positive aspects that we inherited, learned or were taught by them that make up the positive aspects of our personalities today.

Throwing out the Baby with the Bathwater refers to an english phrase that means be careful not to get rid of the good things in your life while in the act of clearing out the bad. Teal breaks this down within relationships and how some are prone to clearing people in their lives that are harmful in some respects but could serve needs in others.

If you hate Christmas or have painful memories associated with Birthdays or Valentine's day etc. this video is for you.  Re-thinking Holidays and taking control of your own experience can be your path to enjoying holidays instead.  In this episode on how to enjoy the holidays, Teal Swan teaches techniques to empower yourself and experience a love of holidays.

The 'suffer so I can feel loved' relationship dynamic is often a subconscious toxic dynamic in relationships where the security in the relationship is based on how much pain one party or both will withstand in order to be together.  In this episode, Teal Swan explains this pattern in detail. 

Productivity is essentially our effectiveness when it comes to making, causing, providing or creating something. There are definite things that cause a decrease in our productivity and definite things that cause an increase in it.  Today, I’m going to share with you some of my top secrets about what makes people productive.

Whens someone wont see the truth, it can be frustrating/infuriating. We all say we want the truth, but if seeing the truth means accepting a painful reality, you can bet that you will meet resistance. This is why we need to work with the resistance. Teal Swan explains that by working directly with resistance you can get to the vulnerable place that truth resides.

"Novocaine Spirituality" is a phrase coined by Teal Swan that describes practices within spirituality that provide temporary relief rather than long term solutions and are therefore more akin to a coping mechanism or painkiller like “novocaine”.  The tricky thing about Novocaine Spirituality is that many of the practices provide relief in the short term and on their own can indeed cause awakening, they just need to be used in the right ways at the right times to ensure that they aren't being used as an escape mechanism.

The Soul Star Chakra is not part of the most widely known 7 Chakra System.  This chakra exists 'outside' the physical body and links the temporal self with the united, eternal, non-physical 'self'.  Teal Swan explains how this chakra fits into the larger chakra system and what we can do to strengthen and connect to the Soul Star Chakra.

The problem with “what resonates with you” is that when something resonates with you, you are saying that it holds the same frequency as you currently do.  This implies agreement instead of discordance. And you know that discordance does not always imply that something is false or wrong..

This mutual caretaking of each other’s best interests is ultimately what creates trust in a relationship. But even people who understand this can fall into a damaging pattern in their relationships; a pattern that can be prevented if you see it clearly.

Attraction is arguably one of the greatest elements of unconscious human behavior, even amongst the most conscious people. It is like a two-sided coin. On one side, it can be a feeling state of the highest blissful excitement. On the other it can induce a feeling state of the lowest desperate suffering.

Motivational Videos and Advice these days revolves around pumping yourself up, pushing through and focusing on your inspirations.  What happens when you are doing things that don't inspire you.  Can you maintain your motivation through these times?  Teal gives this priceless motivational tip for finding the self serving motive even in those tasks that we despise. 

The relationship between men and women today is turbulent.  From the feminist movement came many positive changes in equality but the pendulum swung too far to the other side.  Now women are having to become men because of the passivity that is instilled in men.  Teal explains the psychology of men, what they really want and how to communicate with them in a clear manner to make both of your lives better.

The Media - both the conscious and shadow side can be quite the ominous force to a lot of us, being moved by big money and shadowy figures that most of us have little to no connection towards.  Two things that bring can bring The Media down from the untouchable heights are the consciousness that it is a business and that it is run by actual human beings who also have shadow sides.  Teal Swan enlightens us on the some of the trauma’s people experience that put people into careers of journalism and what the Media is really out to do.

There are claims making their way through various media outlets stating that Teal Swan and Teal Tribe are part of an onslaught of Online Cults that are cropping up across the internet. In this video Teal addresses these cult accusations and explains the widely accepted criteria that defines cult behavior so as to put these fears in their proper place.

Breaking up with someone is one of the worst things we can experience in this life.  The reason is the foreseen loss and connection with the person who at one time, was perhaps the most important person in our lives.  What if a breakup could be seen merely as a transformation in your relationship?  Teal Swan helps you on this path to do this.

How to open your root chakra begins with understanding what the root chakra represents.  This is the chakra most related to grounding, earth, balance and our deep need for personal power and human relationships.  The Root Chakra is also the chakra most attached to our primal instincts and instinct for survival.  Learning to open your Root Chakra comes with a host of benefits but also opens doors to issues that we currently have with our own power and personal relationships.

Many media outlets (as well as the people who read and watch them) have come under the false perception that Teal Swan is encouraging people to commit suicide.  This failure to look deeper into Teal Swan's actual message, methodology, processes and content is ironically the very same reason suicidal individuals feel so isolated and emotionally starved by their families and by society at large today.  In this episode, Teal Swan clarifies her stance on suicide.

We have all been in a Los Lose Scenario, also known as a catch 22, damned if you do damned if you don’t or no win situation.  Teal helps us look at understanding and assessing these situations in order to get the lesson out of them and resolve them with awareness and less pain. Also how to avoid the lose lose scenario in the future.

The Zero Sum Game is a Win Lose scenario that we are often playing in our relationships.  For whatever reason, conscious or subconscious we often find ourselves in zero sum games.  Telling a partner that if they act in one way we break up with them, telling a boss that if we don’t get paid more we quite.  These are scenarios where only 1 side is fought for rather than finding a win win or compatibility rather than compromise.

Alcoholism or Alcohol Use Disorder is the current term to describe the abuse of Alcohol or being addicted to Alcohol.  However even naming addiction to alcohol a disorder conveys a fundamental misunderstanding of this addiction.  Alcoholism is a symptom of deeper wounds originating from being out of control and feeling unsafe if your relationships.  Once we understand this deeper root, can we really get a handle on this “disorder” afflicting so many people in the world today.

Understanding addiction and the factors that lead us to addiction is the key to how to overcome and heal from Addiction. There is a grand misunderstanding that addiction is the root cause in itself and that people who suffer from addiction contain some sort of character flaw or moral deficiency. This couldn’t be further from the truth and getting to the core of what addiction is what Teal does Masterfully in this Ask Teal Episode on Addiction.

 Are you the scapegoat in your family or considered the problem child? Are you constantly blamed for family problems? Blame and Shame are the primary aspects of the scapegoat or scapegoating. It is often a deflection of problems and onto one family member. What most people don't see however is how the scapegoated child often perpetuates the blame in order to stay safe in social situations 

 Spirit Plants, Totem Plants and Shadow Plants are something that all people have. By discovering and connecting with your Spirit Plant you can gain awareness about yourself and the special "medicine" that you came to the world to share. By connecting with your Totem Plant you can gain help for your journey here, and by connecting with your shadow plant, you can gain awareness of what you have suppressed

 Hierarchy is a highly debated system of structure in our world, especially given the amount of protests on equality that we have these days.  Are we really fighting for equality in the world of Hierarchy or are we fighting for our best interests to be considered.  And whats the difference between Hierarchy and Equality.  In this episode, Teal Swan tackles this most controversial subject. 

 What is a Spirit Mineral? These are minerals that closely match your personal vibration.  You can better understand yourself by learning and better understanding the benefits and weaknesses of your spirit mineral or crystal.

How has Spirituality been affected by the Information Age?  With anything we could want to know at our fingertips the information age has changed every aspect of our lives and Spirituality isn’t an exception.  In this episode, Teal Swan discusses how this change has been positive and how it has been negative.

Reality is a subject of deep controversy.  Who is to say what is real and what is not? Who’s reality is truth, and whose is false?  Teal Swan's explanation of subjective versus objective reality delves deep and requires us to hold contradictory realities as well as explore the philosophical concept of Reality.  

Expecting people to react positively when you have shared a truth about your life that is going to have a negative impact on another person isn’t just unrealistic, it can even be cruel!  In this episode, Teal Swan exposes a shadow that we need to be aware of on the path of authenticity when it comes to sharing your authenticity with others.

The Mandela Effect is a theory that a timeline or glitch in our reality has caused events in the past to change. Events like Nelson Mandela’s Death, Martin Luther Kings Death and the spelling of The Berenstain Bears.  The easiest explanation is a collective false memory but is it as simple as this? 

This Ask Teal episode involves a relationship dynamic of suppression that leads to resentment and irresponsibility.  Are these issues that you struggle with and is everyone around you the bad guy? You may be unknowingly placing the care of your best interests in other people’s hands.  Teal Swan explains that it’s time to become aware of these dynamics.

Have you ever heard someone tell you that they love you even though “X” is wrong with you, or that they love you even though you had "X" tendency?  Do you think about others in this way and consider it Unconditional Love?  Teal Swan explains that this common way of loving, is the opposite of unconditional love. 

 Sometimes we may see it as a duty to keep our friends in check.  This arises especially when our friends have power.  When power is involved and we fear power, we may feel the need to play devils advocate.  This episode explains how we may be in a negative power dynamic ourselves and seeking to take our friend down, rather than assisting them to become aware. 

 Teal Swan teaches about the root of the problems you are facing in your life.  Most of the time, the root of those problems is your relationship to your parents/adult caregivers as a child.  In this episode, she throws a curveball by teaching that once you are grown up, your Parents are not the source of your problems anymore, the parents that you have internalized however are.  In our childhoods we develop a plethora of coping strategies to deal with perceived threats from our circumstances, parents or upbringing.  A genius coping strategy is to create internalized parents that give us back control and keep us safe.  But this strategy prevent us from getting what we really want in life once we are grown up. 

One way to ruin a relationship is by harboring the belief that Love Doesn’t Exist.  Love doesn’t exist?  What if I told you that the belief that 'love doesn’t exist' is a coping strategy and a way to protect yourself.  Perhaps you weren’t truly seen as a child, or you had to develop a personality that wasn’t truly yours in order to protect yourself from scrutinizing parents.  Teal Swan not only dives into this paradigm but how to fix it.

The biggest barrier to Awareness is our unwillingness to see and accept a truth that causes us to feel pain or that would imply we need to make a change that is painful to make. Denial is a coping mechanism when dealing with a reality that you cannot change and this is often learned in childhood, as we are often unable to change our childhood situations.  Teal Swan explains that now that we can change, we are often left with this coping mechanism when seeing something is painful or when seeing something implies change. 

 In this episode, Teal Swan challenges your mind.  Objective truth is difficult to grasp because inherently all of us view life from a subjective truth or reality.  Objective truth can be seen as the culmination of all individual and subjective truths and perspectives. 

 Is it wrong to desire?  Can you heal yourself out of a desire through meditation, personal work or Shadow Work?  We often have desires within ourselves that we feel are wrong to have or that will cause us pain.  Perhaps the question is not whether the desire is good or bad but WHY we have it.  Following this line of thinking, Teal Swan explains how you can find your true desire and begin to meet this need directly instead of through unconscious manipulation.

Excellence is inherent within every human being.  We have traits that make unique things easy for us to do and we all have innate gifts that ensure we will be excellent at something.  However, often this excellence is squelched by those who cannot see it within us, or who have different desires and therefore ideas of what excellence is.  In this episode, Teal Swan helps us understand where and why we may have lost touch with our own excellence and how to find it again.

 In this 'graduate understanding of Karma' video, Teal explains how we have had a flawed understanding of Karma for a long long time. Teal Swan explains that Karma is essentially the observation of the law of attraction. Teal Swan explains how karma pertains to re-incarnation and past lives. 

Depression can be an unrelenting force in your life.  Understanding Depression begins with seeking and accepting the ways that you feel futility within your life.  Many people know they feel futile but still subconsciously resist this futility.  The key to understanding, overcoming, and eventually healing depression may lie in accepting the aspects and resolving the aspects of your life that you feel Futile about.  Teal explains depression in detail in this episode.

 Physical Touch is something that doesn’t necessarily make sense to modern day science.  But the mind and body are inextricably connected. With every physical ailment we have, there is a corresponding mental or emotional cause at the root of it.  Touch is also a way to communicate without words.  But touch can be corrupted, especially with physical or sexual abuse.  Our relationship to touch may be destroyed or confused.  So Teal Swan explains that it is vital that we improve our relationship to touch, because it is something physical humans literally cannot live without. 

 In this episode, Teal Swan reveals what every man should know about every woman... Her inherent biology of fear.  This advice on Relationships is crucial because women live with fear constantly and men do not know this fear.  As a result, men do not understand women are living with fear constantly.  Relationships are difficult when men do not understand this, it causes them to prioritize the wrong thing in any given moment to create security in their relationships with women.  And women are so used to living in fear, they do not realize they are living in it.      

 What is the true lesson of Christ, Lucifer?  Teal breaks down the understanding of both the consciousness of Christ and the channel that was Jesus Christ and the lesson that we can learn from Christ and Lucifer. 

 Bulldozing usually refers to not accommodating others but by far the more important form of bulldozing, is the bulldozing we do to ourselves.  We grew up in situations where our emotions were not ok.  In order to stay safe in those situations we would bulldoze our own emotions in order to stay safe and avoid conflict.  Teal Swan explains how learning to recognize the ways we bulldoze ourselves and others, and stopping this pattern within ourselves is key to integration as well as health and happiness.  

 Channeling is the act of translating messages from another consciousness.  In the spiritual field, this usually means translating messages from beings that exist outside of the 3D reality. A Channel is a person who has the ability to channel these beings.  Their words are often taken as the ultimate truth because they are coming from higher dimensions, but most people don’t understand they have their own perspectives and therefore limitations of perspective as well.  

Many of these mind altering drugs are the result of spiritual evolution in general, see what Teal has to say about them.

 FOMO and Fear of Missing Out is one of the newer acronyms of the internet age, however this is an age old issue relating to social anxiety. If you fear missing out or experience FOMO, you must look to your childhood to see the origins. Teal Swan dives into the causes and solutions to FOMO.  

 How to Awaken Your Kundalini begins with a basic understanding of what Kundalini is. Kundalini is often thought to be lying dormant within our being when it is actually in a state of stillness and often because we are resisting our own life force energy. Awakening your Kundalini begins with the realization that there may be nothing to awaken, just something that needs to be allowed instead of resisted. 

 Dyslexia is more of a different way of understanding rather than a disorder itself. Teal Swan explains Dyslexia and ADHD, where they've come from, how to understand them and what to do if you have a child with Dyslexia or ADHD. This is an excerpt from The Live Online Synchronization Workshop on Dyslexia. People may write in and ask any question they wish. Teal's Live Workshops are on Premium, to view the rest of this workshop visit TealSwan.com/premium​​​​​​​ 

 Hoarding and Hoarders in this episode of Ask Teal explores the psychology around Hoarding and what creates the mindset around this. Teal Swan explores the relationship between Hoarders and their things, piles and hoards. You may be surprised about what you learn about Hoarders. 

 There are parts of our mental health system that are broken and need change. One of these is simply a mindset. The inability to take on patients realities does not mean perpetuating or condoning their reality in the mental health field. But it does mean validating their emotions as real and stepping into their first person perspective. I also means questioning our own reality. We need to close the distance between psychologist and patient, if people aren’t connected and able to accommodate each other's reality, real growth cannot occur. In this episode, Teal swan goes into detail about specifically what needs to change. 

 Why haven't I won the lottery yet is a video excerpt from Teal Swan's Synchronization Workshop on January 27th, 2019. She breaks down a live question about the lottery and all the reasons this person has been focusing on abundance and winning the lottery. This is a fundamental lesson on the law of attraction. To Watch the Rest of the Workshop visit Teal Premium.

 This Ask Teal Episode on Embarrassment outlines what being embarrassed is about on a deep level. Teal Swan explains the difference between embarrassment and shame. When you are embarrassed you are simply trying to hide something from others about yourself. When you are in shame, you are also rejecting this thing you are trying to hide from others within yourself. This video on embarrassment will help you understand and transform your embarrassment.