Do you have an anger problem? It seems like it would be obvious, but if you have learned to suppress or deny your feelings, you may not recognize it or how its affecting your life. Michelle Farris joins me today to talk about 4 ways to identify anger, and 5 ways to manage it. Michelle is a licensed psychotherapist and person in recovery. This is actually her third time on the podcast, so if you want to hear her whole story, just go to odaatchat.com and Ill leave a link in the show notes. Before we jump in, I just wanted to let you know that Im publishing educational videos on my youtube channel. Ill be covering topics like how to rebuild self-esteem, tips to stop drinking, and long form sleep hypnosis to help you rewire your brain for improved self worth, detachment from overthinking, trust in the universe, self love and confidence.  Just visit The one day at a time recovery podcast on YouTube, and as always, the link will be in the show notes. https //odaatchat.com/index.php/2022/01/28/michelle-2/ Im really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Michelle . Connect with Michelle   https //www.counselingrecovery.com Subscribe So You Dont Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you! Here are 4 ways to get started Free Guide 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here https //www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching Make Sobriety Stick https //www.makesobrietystick.com Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free https //www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love  https //www.selfesteemcourse.com           Apple https //podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify https //open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music https //music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

Hi Friend, thank you for downloading this episode and hanging out with us today! If you hear some snoring, that’s just my english bulldog Ted. I didn’t have the heart to kick him out so he’s hanging out with us too. Today’s question is:  Can you get sober for someone else?  There is a lot of debate around the idea of getting sober for someone else. In this episode, I have a conversation with Paul Summers Jr, who is a returning guest. He is the author of “Hide and Seek: A Dad’s Journey from Soulless addiction to sole custody”.  In this episode Paul shares his story of drug addiction, how he got sober for his daughter, and the fight to save her from an addict mother.  Before we jump in, I wanted to share an idea that has really helped a lot of my clients as they work towards breaking old behavior patterns and achieving really big goals, and that is the Law of 51%. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by changes that you want to make or goals you want to achieve. That feeling of overwhelm can keep you from taking action, which keeps you feeling stuck. Think of a balance scale and what it takes to tip the balance. It’s just a little more on one side than the other! So the law of 51% states that all you need to tip the scale, is just a little more progress in the direction you’re headed in. The big take away here is that you are closer to your goal than you think! With some tools, support and a little practice, you can reach that goal you have been struggling with.   This is just one of the lessons from my 6 week class called “Reinvent Yourself”. Listen, we all know what to do, but we just don’t do it. Why? The answer is resistance. The magic is that we do the exercises together in class to break through that resistance and help you build momentum.   Class starts Oct 3 at 6pm PST. I only teach this class 3 times per year and space is very limited, so don’t miss out! As a little incentive, if you sign up by Friday, you can bring a friend for free! To register, head on over to selfesteemcourse.com.   So that’s it for announcements! Please enjoy this episode, with Paul!   Purchase Paul’s Book Here: https://amzn.to/47JCY8e   Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube.   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 4 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https://www.makesobrietystick.com Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free https://www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love  https://www.selfesteemcourse.com       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast  

Is your self-worth tied to your relationship with money?    It is for me! And I know it is for so many of us in recovery. Money is a very triggering topic and touches so many aspects of our lives. And we rarely talk about it! So in this episode, we’re going to get into it.   Today I’m speaking with Julie Reisler who is the author of Get a PhD in YOU: A Course in Miraculous Self-Discovery, podcast host of “The Youest-You”, and a woman in long term recovery from food addiction.   In this episode we’ll cover topics like:   Food Addiction   Examples of Money Wounds   Limiting Money Beliefs   12 Steps To Healing Money Issues   Julie has so many insights to share. My favorite quote from her is: “What’s reflected outside is a mirror of what’s going on inside”. So true!   I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Julie.   Connect with Julie Here: https://juliereisler.com/ Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you! Here are 4 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https://www.makesobrietystick.com Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free https://www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love  https://www.selfesteemcourse.com       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast  

This is going to be a really good one, especially for those who participate in ACA, which is Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families. In the 338 episodes I’ve recorded so far, I’ve actually never covered this topic! My guest for this conversation is Dr. Sharon Martin. She is a psychotherapist and author specializing in codependency recovery. For the past 25 years, she’s been helping adult children recover from difficult childhoods, overcome feelings of unworthiness, and learn to set boundaries. Dr. Martin is the author of four self-help books, including “The Better Boundaries Workbook” and “Cutting Ties with Your Parents.” She also writes the popular blog Conquering Codependency for Psychology Today. In this episode we’re going to be talking about setting boundaries, codependency, perfectionism, and how to handle events such as weddings and funerals if you’ve cut ties with your parents. Anyway, I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Sharon, and let me know what you think! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE (https://www.odaatchat.com) . Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you! Here are 4 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com  Private one-on-one coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https://www.makesobrietystick.com   Sobriety Reset: A Self-Paced 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free  https://www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love https://www.selfesteemcourse.com      

Hey Friend, Thanks for downloading the episode!    I would like to introduce you to Patti Clark. She is the author of "Recovery Road Trip: Finding Purpose and Connection on the Journey Home"   Today she shares her story of how she found recovery, her relapse after 13 years sober, and how she got sober again.    She is so relatable and has so much wisdom to share!   In this episode:   What you’ll hear:   ✅  Perils of Moving In Sobriety   ✅  Relapsing After Long Term Sobriety   ✅  Coping With Guilt & Shame   ✅  Creating The Community She Needed   And so much more…   Patti is such a beautiful person and I’m so lucky to have met her! I think you’ll love her too.   So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Patti.   Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://youtu.be/vTdDVZbH17Y https://amzn.to/3Mw6dBl

Hey Friend!    If you’re new here, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host. If you’re on Instagram, you can find me @ arinaallen, so drop by and say hi! I’d love to meet you!   In this episode, I have a conversation with Caroline Beidler, the co-author of “You are not your trauma: Uproot unhealthy patterns, Heal the family tree”   Trauma is such an important topic because so many of us in recovery from addiction are living with unhealed trauma. It affects our sense of self-worth, the people we surround ourselves with and even our ability to get or stay sober.   Caroline and I talk about her story of abandonment, growing up with dysfunctional parents, surviving multiple sexual assaults, and her own addictions.    We actually recorded this episode prior to the one we did with her mother Diana Dallas, who co-authored the book, but I was so moved by THAT conversation that I published it first.    So yeah, there’s no master plan, I’m literally flying by the seat of my pants!   Caroline’s story is one of trauma, but ultimately, she is also a living example of how far you can go, when there is willingness to do the work of recovery.    So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Caroline. Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates and videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://www.makesobrietystick.com     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

Hey Friend,    Welcome to the podcast! In case we haven’t met yet, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host.   Today I am joined again by my friend John Loxley who is also a podcaster, he’s a writer, father and person in long term recovery. This is his 3rd time joining me on the podcast. I absolutely love talking with John! He’s a deep thinker, a philosopher, but also very down to earth.   In this episode John shares what it was like to leave his program behind when he vacationed in Turkey, how his mental health was affected and what he did to feel grounded again.   It was a wide ranging conversation, covering topics like why he quit drinking, the way he discovered spirituality, and 3 amazing stories of how his higher power works in his life.   I always get so much out of my time speaking with John, and I know you will too.   So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with John, and let me know what you think! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

For those of us in recovery, the relationships we have with our parents can be complicated. Especially if the parent was absent or if they had a lot of trauma.   Today I am honored to share a conversation with Caroline Beidler and her mother Diana Dallas. They wrote a book together called “You are not your trauma: Uproot Unhealthy Patterns, Heal The Family Tree”. It will ​​help you identify unhealthy patterns that keep you stuck and live more freely without your trauma--or your family's trauma--holding you back.   For me, this was such a powerful conversation. I was on the verge of tears multiple times. Their openness and vulnerability with each other really touched my heart.    And the book is amazing! It’s part memoir, part science, and part workbook. It covers topics that include codependency, perfectionism, people pleasing and burnout to name a few.   Anyway, I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode Caroline and Diana.     Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE.  Or watch the interview on YouTube!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

Can you imagine how terrifying it would be to get kidnapped?! Today my beautiful and talented friend Pamela Rueda shares her harrowing story of trauma, struggling with addiction in motherhood, dealing with shame, but also how she turned it all into her superpower.    I think we should all start calling her Powerhouse Pamela because she is so full of energy and works so hard to support other women in recovery.   Before we jump in, I am sooo excited to share that I finished writing my book! The 12 step guide for skeptics - is finally finished! Well, kind of finished. It’s about to go to the editor, then I have to submit it for copywriting, get the book cover done…okay so there’s still a lot to do BUT! I’m hoping to have it done for either Sober October (not likely) or No Booze November (possibly), but definitely for Dry January!    It has literally taken me YEARS to get to this point, so I’m starting to get excited about sharing it with the world. The reason I wrote it is because over the last 8 years of doing the podcast, I have been exposed to a TON of misconceptions, misunderstanding, and quite frankly a lot of vitriol against AA. While I can validate that there are some problems with the fellowship, the 12 step process is so profoundly transformative, that they have been adapted to many addictions and disorders.    It’s part memoir, part psychology, part science - but all my opinions. Listen, I don’t know what’s right for you, but I’m going to offer you some context and perspective so that you,  as they say in the rooms, can run the experiment for yourself.   If you are the open minded type and you’re curious about what’s in the book, you can visit the12stepguideforskeptis.com and download the first few pages. It’ll also put you on my newsletter so you can get updates about when it will be published.    I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with , and let me know what you think!   Connect with Pamela here! https://www.mybadassrecovery.com/ https://www.instagram.com/mybadassrecovery/ Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

Hi Friend! In case we haven’t met yet, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host.   Today I’m sharing a conversation I had with Alex McRobert, aka, Sober Yoga Girl. Alex shares her story of how she started drinking at 14, her family life, and how she went from living in Kuwait at 23 years old, to realizing she had a problem with alcohol. Alex shares how she was able to find her own unique path to sobriety, what she does to maintain it, and the amazing life she has created for herself in Bali!   Alex is a beautiful example of what it looks like to have the courage to follow your heart and live a life full of purpose and meaning.   Anyway, I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Alex, and let me know what you think!   Connect with Alex on IG: https://www.instagram.com/alexmcrobs https://www.themindfullifepractice.com/ Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

Do you struggle with feelings of unworthiness? Does it hold you back from reaching your goals?    Today I am joined by Paul Summers Jr, the author of “Hide and Seek: A Dad’s Journey From Soulless Addiction to Sole Custody”   He had reached out to be a guest on the podcast, and after a short discussion we decided to do a coaching call to address the feelings he was having around promoting his book. Feelings of not wanting to be a pushy sales guy, or being sensitive to critical feedback.   We do a demo of parts work, to get to the root cause of where these feelings come from, and Paul was able to heal some old wounds in the process.   I want to thank Paul for his courage and vulnerability. I think it will help for others to see how deep work leads to feelings of peace and positive productivity.   So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Paul, and share it with a friend!   Buy The Book Here! https://amzn.to/4bTjQot   Connect with Paul Here: https://www.paulsummersjr.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul_summers_jr/ Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast